You need to get together with her and the "friend" (with friends like that who need enemies - lol) and have him explain exactly why he started that rumor (he'll probably say to make you look good). This is a common occurrence. I remember a classmate freshman year of college that I took into my room (my roommate and another guy kept pestering me for a full "after action de-brief"). Unfortunately, I "broke" and told them how far I got (not all the way). They at least had the decency to not start a rumor about it, but my roommate referred to a "blow job" as "At least you let her do the dirty work" which seemed kind of disgusting to me at the time. I just chocked it up to his inexperience or lack of success with women. I don't talk about women like that and I sure don't pester friends to find out how far they got with a woman.

Most people are not comfortable talking about sexual activity (any kind of sexual activity) with people not in their peer group. You will never be in your teacher's peer group. She may wonder if you are bisexual and feel you are flirting with her or harassing her by discussing your or anyone else's sexual activity (past, present, or future). That's what I would think. That is reality.

You may have some sort of platonic or subconscious romantic crush on this teacher (the 2nd one), but she cannot reciprocate any feeling you have for her from anything other than an adult/child perspective.

1. Do you plan on maintaining contact with this teacher after you graduate from high school?

The sexual assault (SA) is something that happened 8-10 years ago and you probably don't want it to "color" the rest of your life. It's best forgotten or at least not dwelled upon unless you want that to be the "story of your life". If you want to discuss the SA with anyone, I suggest a boyfriend, female friend of your own age, or maybe a therapist.

2. Is the main reason it was considered sexual assault because it was a relative or did the relative actually force himself/herself on you and/or batter or threaten to batter you if you did not acquiesce to having sex with them?

3. Have you had any sexual experience with boys/men since the SA?

If not, try going to school dances, or other youth/school activities where you can encounter other boys that will not be sexually assaultive. After a slow dance is a good opportunity to kiss and fondle/hug a boy/girl of your choosing. Not knowing your level of sexual experience, I'm not saying you can or should copulate on the dance floor, but you might find some romantic/sexual partners that are more interesting than this teacher that seems so special to you.

"For some back story, I am almost 16, I was sexually assaulted when I was young"

"... it ended up getting reported ..."

You are still young (I am 64) to most people.

1. At what age were you SA'd and by whom or what was their relation to you?

When you bring up the subject, it invites these kinds of question since people want to understand your experience better.

If you don't want to talk about it with strangers (e.g. us on Reddit), feel free to not reply to my questions. I get the impression you are soliciting advice from us on how to avoid the "reporting" situation which seems to cause you some distress, so I am soliciting clarification before I give my opinion.

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2. I'm not sure what you mean about "reported". Do you mean "reported to police"? Or do you mean reported to "mental health" personnel, or both?

At first, I couldn't understand why your teacher had to "report" the SA again if it had already been .reported. The mental health counselors may feel that if you are still talking about it with non-peers, then you are, at best, over-obsessing about it or, at worst, passively soliciting more SA (whether you want it or not). In either case, they may think you would benefit from some counseling and so they have encouraged other non-peers (adults) to notify them.

I've been thinking about the hand/sunflower stamps (assuming they aren't fictional). While we can guess all we want about them being two groups of classification, they could just be some other internal designation to keep the paperwork pages together (like Copy 1 and Copy 2). I remember wondering about strange things in the ADCs and then finding out that they had innocuous meanings, so ...

If not an "innocuous" designation, then one guess is that sunflower might code for more passive (e. g. vegetable) and hand might code for active (e. g. animal). While armed robbery might seem kind of "active", it includes picking someone's pocket while you happened to be carrying a weapon (e.g. extra-large toe-nail clippers - lol) (versus putting a gun to their head and grabbing money off them). They may have considered you less "active" than other inmates especially if it was your first time sentenced to more than one year (6 months with good time).

And a lot of things that were being done for you (mostly because you weren't trusted to do them (lol) (e.g. meals, laundry, bills, paperwork, etc ...) you now have to do yourself. That was one minor "shock to my system" that I experienced after getting out, but it doesn't last too long and you re-adapt back to being self-sufficient.

You left me hanging a bit. I'm guess it was a dead head, but if not,

1. Was it just his head or the whole body?
2. Was he alive or dead?

This could have been a real person that was detained somewhere (under a different name) and his relatives sold all his property and home (Apt. 311) since they thought he was dead. After 1 years of absence, they can declare you legally dead and dispose of your property, even if they haven't found your body. This could be the source of a lot of "haunted house" stories. From your perspective it feels like someone or something is "gaslighting" you - trying to mess with your mind by showing they can invade your home any time they want. Your "ghost" may be a real live person, possibly homeless, going back to the last home he had (maybe a sleepwalker) for a nostalgia trip.