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RunRevolutionary9019 t1_isn2f0b wrote

I had a gnarly ten year eating disorder. About ten years after it was over I went on vacation with a student of mine and her parents.

They are a bit bigger. I’m tiny. Holy hell they were feeders. I didn’t care because at that point my eating disorder was so far behind me I knew I’d lose the weight quickly but man they fattened me up in ten days!

I can spot an emotional eater from a mile away. I so wish I could give them what I have an show them another way.

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ChiefOfficerWhite t1_isn89hr wrote

You went on a vacation with a student of yours? And her parents?

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RunRevolutionary9019 t1_isosnvo wrote

University student if that changes anything. I was super young for a teacher and we were going to go on a girls vacation but then her parents decided to tag along. It was not ideal.

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ChiefOfficerWhite t1_isp25ht wrote

Still weird

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RunRevolutionary9019 t1_isp2fw2 wrote

We were almost the same age. It was normal. I’m also friends with old patients of mine. I was a clinic supervisor. We had a of contact. And we’re both single moms.

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ChiefOfficerWhite t1_isp2yru wrote

So you do a lot of weird stuff, I get it.

Going on vacation with your student and her parents is still a lot weirder than being friends with old patients of yours.

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Astro_Lord t1_isn4q9u wrote

You wish you could give them your eating disorder? I’m confused

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t0b4cc02 t1_isnr3ge wrote

> had a gnarly ten year eating disorder

> my eating disorder was so far behind me I knew I’d lose the weight quickly

> I could give them what I have

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RunRevolutionary9019 t1_isorpc7 wrote

Show them how not to have disordered eating. I tell people what I did but everyone says it wouldn’t work for them.

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Astro_Lord t1_isotirf wrote

I’m curious — shoot

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RunRevolutionary9019 t1_isotvl5 wrote

Read Geneen Roth’s books, go to one of her things if she still does them. Go to group therapy. Exercise moderately. Eat whatever you want. Refuse to judge yourself for anything you eat. Eat emotionally but if your going to do it do it full on. Comfort yourself for real and again refuse to guilt trip yourself about it. Say your name, that your happy with your weight, and your ideal weight ten times daily. Yoga is good. Chinese medicine helped. I think it sad also about my being done. I was over it and didn’t care if I ended up fat so I did whatever I was told. I gained twenty pounds and lost it again within a year and lost my urge to binge. Happy to talk. It’s been about 22 years since I let my eating disorder go.

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iDuddits_ t1_isnzgjd wrote

Ex was dealing with bulimia that I wasn’t aware of for a while. Thing is I was eating when they were without the purging..

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RunRevolutionary9019 t1_isosrrk wrote

Oh no. So you got fat? That’s kinda hilarious. Like when I was pregnant with my first and her dad got fat not me.

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TrippieBled t1_isn5ze5 wrote

Im an emotional eater, any advice?

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greeneggsandstuff t1_isnbk9c wrote

You need a paradigm shift. The key to quitting anything is to understand you don’t need it to be well. That starts with healing from trauma then practicing living differently. Then you learn to not identify with that version of you. It isn’t the fundamental you; it’s a way of being that can be changed. Source I’ve quit smoking, drinking, and all drugs. All of which I’ve abused.

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mickdeb t1_isntsvs wrote

This was really an interesting take about it, i am actually quite a bit worried about my alcool consumption and i needed to read that today.

Thank you

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greeneggsandstuff t1_isp83zd wrote

You’re welcome :) When it came time for me to quit drinking (I worked on quitting for years) I told myself that if I wanted the alcohol, it would always be there, so not having it didn’t mean I would lose it forever. That sounds kind of weird, but what I was doing was finding a path out of the relationship with it, saying to myself I think I’m better without it, and maybe I CAN live without it, so I’ll give it a go to walk away for at least a little bit.

The result of that was realizing how bad the relationship between alcohol and body and alcohol and mind is. I believed I could never be without it in some form then I realized it was only my enemy. The ensuing mental clarity and physical wellness was more than I imagined it could be, and now there’s no way in hell I’ll ever go back. It’s just too good on the other side.

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greeneggsandstuff t1_isp9rnu wrote

I’m really glad that was helpful for you to hear :) Whatever it is that you want to let go of, you can, and you will thrive because of it.

I remember growing up and hearing adults talking about quitting smoking. There were all these simple ways of thinking about it. “Well, it’s an oral fixation. You just replace it with suckers.” Or things like “It because it’s social. It’s hard to not go out for a smoke with your friends.” And that’s true to an extend for some, but what everyone was really afraid to see, to admit was that for many of them it was the internally festering trauma of their personal lives that kept them needing to smoke.

It’s the same with every addiction, and there is a path out.

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RunRevolutionary9019 t1_isosd2c wrote

Read Geneen Roth’s books, go to one of her things if she still does them. Go to group therapy. Exercise moderately. Eat whatever you want. Refuse to judge yourself for anything you eat. Eat emotionally but if your going to do it do it full on. Comfort yourself for real and again refuse to guilt trip yourself about it. Say your name, that your happy with your weight, and your ideal weight ten times daily. Yoga is good. Chinese medicine helped. I think it sad also about my being done. I was over it and didn’t care if I ended up fat so I did whatever I was told. I gained twenty pounds and lost it again within a year and lost my urge to binge. Happy to talk. It’s been about 22 years since I let my eating disorder go.

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MiseALepreuve t1_isoatls wrote

Binge exercise. Keep only healthy, boring food in your house.

No one ever got fat on salad.

Or do the whole healthy emotional recovery others mentioned, but my way is easier

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dr-freddy-112 t1_isogfr0 wrote

Easier short term, less effective long term.

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MiseALepreuve t1_isokj1m wrote

I mean, how long term are we talking? It’s been effective for me so far, but obviously by the time I’m 50+ and can’t exercise as effectively I’ll need to have cemented good eating habits.

I find it far easier to deal with mental health issues when I’m physically healthy, though

Keeping only healthy food around is just good advice, tho.

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dr-freddy-112 t1_isokz4d wrote

My point is that the "healthy emotional recovery" part pays dividends long term because emotional eating is easier to control. It's also easier to form healthy exercise habits rather than "binge exercise".

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