Viewing a single comment thread. View all comments

Kelevracado4287 t1_j67ef47 wrote

Reply to comment by Charlesinrichmond in The Night Thread by Asterion7

Same. I’m debating just continuing to not drink for awhile tbh

3

DefaultSubsAreTerrib t1_j6828cp wrote

Why not continue?

2

Kelevracado4287 t1_j682gbx wrote

shrug Idk. Def a little quieter without drinking, but that’s good too. Yet I wonder if I’m putting no effort into going out because I’m not drinking…or if going out to bars/trying to link up with people has real purpose

2

DefaultSubsAreTerrib t1_j682qw6 wrote

Trying to link up with people has real purpose. Whether you need alcohol to do that is a different question.

2

ImmobilizedbyCheese t1_j6849sc wrote

Same. I don't think I should be dry forever though because it will not ultimately bring me happiness. Putting another boundary on myself has made me even more antisocial, bitter at my spouse and missing out on a huge section of Richmond entertainment.

2

Kelevracado4287 t1_j684gvr wrote

Yea. Like I KNOW so many people so going out I always run into people (side job is a very popular bar in the city for metal heads/punks/vegans) so I love chilling there with my shift drink.

My problem is I live alone, single, and struggle to find things to do. So a lot of times I just go to a bar I know- but that has ended up in me blacking out at times and being shitty.

But other times it leaves me on adventures I wouldn’t be doing if I was sober.

Also calories/missing the gym is something I’m trying to avoid.

2

ImmobilizedbyCheese t1_j68issd wrote

This is why I don't want anything harder than beer in the house and will focus on getting just one nice mixed drink and hydrating more when going out.

1

Charlesinrichmond t1_j695wht wrote

blacking out is not good... Maybe stick to beer and wine and see how that goes?

Or give up drinking of course, it's the right solution for many people. Only you know the answer

1

Charlesinrichmond t1_j695rfj wrote

I never get drunk, but I LOVE wine and I LOVE beer. Which is why I do dry January, I like it enough that I keep awareness.

But I also don't feel better after giving up drinking. Not drinking is the righ choice for many, but I don't feel it is for me.

1