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CJ3795 t1_iucnemk wrote

Reply to comment by Aylabadayla in LPT: Try to keep problems with you and your significant other between the two of you. by Pale_Perception_4927

I have first hand experience of this and we are now in therapy so I can try to establish boundaries with my partner so he stops running to his (massive) family every time we have an issue in our relationship. His mother in particular remembers every single bad thing that’s happened! Involving family is never a good idea in the long term.

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Dvscape t1_iuday0q wrote

I'm 34 and have never discussed my relationships with any of my parents. What good could there come of it (other than venting, maybe)?

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PhilosophicalPhuck t1_iudedfb wrote

>What good could there come of it

mommy i hurty i need attentionsss

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drsyesta t1_iuftt55 wrote

Who tf would go to their parents for support? Cringe

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Funandgeeky t1_iufqv91 wrote

My family never knew I was going to get a divorce until two weeks after my ex had moved out. (It was amicable, but still divorce is never fun.) I refused to vent any issues I had with them and I stand by it. Even now, when I mention my ex I never say anything negative.

Far too many people run to their families because they want an echo chamber. And they want their family to help them gang up on the other person. And it's NOT a sign of a mature person and can signal that this is not a healthy relationship.

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2derpywolves t1_iue54c2 wrote

I've known people to go to others to complain and vent anytime something inconveniencing happens in a relationship, but don't put the same energy into being appreciative or sharing positive things regarding the relationship.

And then they wonder why their friends view the relationship and their partner negatively.

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