Of course, you can't tell someone to perceive you in a certain way, and I'm not saying that it is bad to address that Leo still sees Kate as a boy, but addressing trans people in the correct way is basic respect, and trans people understand that

I didn't even think of a lot of these points to be honest, but I completely agree. Kate putting on her "girl cosplay" as it's presented in the book is far too idealized, and it creates a false idea for closeted trans girls. I find your point about the ball at the end interesting, and I didn't even think of it that way.

I assume you're implying that I was looking for transphobia, which I wasn't.

It could well be that that's how she sees that trans experience, and I don't think she was being intentionally transphobic by any means. I think she had very good intentions with writing the book that I appreciate, although it might not have been clear in my review. All I'm trying to do is point out that the book spreads many ideas that - usually unintentionally - harm the trans community. People may relate to points that I don't, even points that I spoke against in my review, and that's completely valid. I don't think the author's transphobia was malicious or intentional, just misinformed, and I think the misinformation is important to point out.