Verbose_Cactus

Verbose_Cactus t1_jae8jeb wrote

Iā€™m so sorry for your loss, friend. Iā€™m glad you can recognize how irrational those thoughts are, though. It will never be your fault. You made her life ten times more valuable. You gave so much love.

If you donā€™t already see a therapist, I really do recommend it. Healing is so hard to do alone. Theyā€™ve helped me get through a lot

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Verbose_Cactus t1_j9ltqj6 wrote

Oh honey, Iā€™m just so sorry. Please donā€™t blame yourself though OP. Iā€™ve been through something like this, where I basically convinced her that her ā€œjust friendā€ was actually interested in herā€¦

I just didnā€™t realize the feeling was mutual for her. Oops.

But in reality, the willingness to cheat was already there no matter what you or I did

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Verbose_Cactus t1_j1oswhn wrote

Oh I mean I kinda thought she did too. Based on setting the beds up together, saying ā€œyou can touch my chestā€, and the general eagerness to see OP.

(NOT AT ALL CONDONING THIS, I just think maybe she initially liked himā€¦ butā€¦ now heā€™s absolutely ruined her trust. Even after she told him about her previous assault. Really, really terrible)

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