ConvivialKat
ConvivialKat t1_j6p8bpi wrote
Reply to comment by DistraugtlyDistractd in I (22M) broke up with my gf (f21) and I wanted to text her one last thing by [deleted]
So, you just wanted to rub a little "it's on you" salt in the wound?
ConvivialKat t1_j6p85sw wrote
You broke up. Breaking up doesn't need a follow-up text.
Do not send this. I don't even know you, and it made me cringe.
ConvivialKat t1_j4d5gvw wrote
Reply to comment by alt0bs in Tifu by storing champagne sideways by alt0bs
My second recommendation is to try PEACH NECTAR instead of OJ. It's called a BELLINI, and it will rock your world! Lol!
ConvivialKat t1_j4d2fvx wrote
Reply to Tifu by storing champagne sideways by alt0bs
Buy yourself a champagne stopper. They clamp on to the rim of the bottle and are pretty strong. Also, find a place to store your champers "partially upright" (leaning a bit is OK) in the fridge.
ConvivialKat t1_j2f3qlv wrote
Reply to comment by ThrowRaConfusedAF090 in [21M][20F] Ex texted me after 2 years saying she's pregnant by ThrowRaConfusedAF090
Can he afford child support? Because, if he can't prove the child is not his, that's probably going to be her next step.
Shop around. There are a lot of lawyers who function on a sliding scale based on income.
ConvivialKat t1_j2f23fy wrote
Tell your BF to stop communicating with her and to get a lawyer. Have the lawyer send her a letter demanding a photo of the child (with her), a birth certificate, and demand an independent paternity test. Your BF needs to stop letting her control this situation and get this handled.
ConvivialKat t1_j2bx4w9 wrote
Reply to [65M] [65F] [40M] Abusive father and mother won't stop reaching out to me. Should I text them back? by ThrowRArandomnumberz
ANY contact with them will be viewed by them as an open door for "normal" relations again. They will totally ignore your boundaries or requirements. In your shoes, I would not respond and block any further attempts at contact.
ConvivialKat t1_j29wx2t wrote
Reply to TIFU by turning down a guy I really liked because of my anxiety and now I can’t stop regretting it by babysharkso
First you sabotaged yourself in the moment and now you are continuing that sabotage by focusing on regret. I suspect you have also built this person up in your mind, increasing your regret. Because, you only spent a few minutes with the guy, so you really have no idea of who or what he is.
The expression "live and learn" exists for a reason. Move on and try to learn how to better deal with your anxiety.
ConvivialKat t1_j0xpjhs wrote
Just dump it down the sink, dude. It's ONE glass of lemonade, not a lifetime supply.
ConvivialKat t1_iyfeawb wrote
Reply to comment by Woodit in My (F25) bf (M25) doesn't want marriage. How can I get myself to accept this? by Curious_Lynx_3770
Yes, but that doesn't make your partner your next of kin. It can make them the executor of your estate if you die, but has no protections if you are still alive. That takes a power of attorney and an advanced Healthcare directive. Not cheap.
ETA: Also Domestic partnerships aren't recognized in many states. This is why gay partners want the right to legally marry.
ConvivialKat t1_iyf5uik wrote
Reply to My (F25) bf (M25) doesn't want marriage. How can I get myself to accept this? by Curious_Lynx_3770
So, I'm the old person coming in with a reality check for your BF. Marriage IS a social construct, but it also gives each of you some serious legal protections that you will have to spend a lot of money trying to get, when you can get them automatically by legally marrying someone.
When you marry, you become your spouses next of kin. What does that mean? That means that if something happens to either of you, the other is the person who will be accepted by everyone as the person who is in control. If you are next of kin, you are the one who can always be with your partner and can make medical decisions for them if they are unable to do so. If you are NOT next of kin, those decisions are up to your partner's next of kin (likely parents). They could exclude your partner entirely. Everything related to your life and your living scenario will be dependent upon next of kin.
Of course, legal protections can be put into place...a will, an advanced Healthcare directive, a power of attorney...but the COST is extreme compared to the simple action of getting legally married.
ConvivialKat t1_iujybm5 wrote
Yow! You need to tell her that you had lunch with them and EXACTLY what happened and what they said.
Oh, and hold off on proposing, OP. You need to make sure you and your GF are a team and on the same page.
Your GF's parents are massive A-Holes. Ick. Your poor GF.
ConvivialKat t1_iuilewe wrote
Reply to My partner of 5 years wants to move out but not break-up... I feel so defeated. by [deleted]
I'm sorry, OP, but saying that he can't be in a relationship right now and moving out is breaking up. He broke up with you. I'm so sorry. But, you need to accept reality and make plans to move on with your life. Trying to convince yourself there is still hope is only going to hurt you more. Good luck and best wishes to you.
ConvivialKat t1_jaenr53 wrote
Reply to Do I (M28) forgive my FWB (F27) for almost seeing someone else? by [deleted]
WTF? There is no "exclusive FWB." The whole point of being FWB is fucking with no commitment by either party.
This woman had done nothing that needs to be "forgiven." Yeesh.
You need to sort yourself out, dude.