Low_Alarm1179 t1_j6c60n9 wrote
There is always gonna be the lack of trust now.
The fact she said she "cheated" but then changed and said, "assaulted."
She was lying when she said at least one of those things, and people dont generally lie to make themselves look like a cheater.
If she was assaulted, has she reported it? From reading your post, I doubt it.
There's a lot more to situations like this than can be articulated in a post on Reddit.
I just personally feel from reading your post, that you'll always have that "blood run cold" feeling pop up, the trust is gone and its the foundation of a healthy relationship.
If it were me, at 20 years old, I'd be dust mate.
Dreaming_Indigo t1_j6cx116 wrote
While I agree with almost everything you've said, people who were assaulted 'lying' about cheating isn't that unusual. Particularly women are frequently faced with ideas that it's their fault for the assault or asked for it etc. Means sometimes the shame after the assault can lead you to feel like you've cheated, though total nonsense. Plus some partners/men etc think they have been cheated on, even if it was assault. Not saying that's what's happened here, I don't know, but it is possible.
In this situation though, regardless of 'truth', as you said, no trust left, and you can't have a relationship without trust.
thrwayhairbortion t1_j6d749b wrote
This is a terrible take.
Often people have been assaulted will call it "cheating," because they struggle to acknowledge the assault and blame themselves.
It's incredibly common.
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