He is talking to reddit likely due to a lack of good friends. So be one.u/throwaway20029188818 This is going to come from the heart and be complex. Buckle in.

You are living in an age where exploring sexuality is VERY difficult as men are shamed to make any advances and YOUR MINDSET is VERY HEALTHY but a little over-reactive lol. Im actually proud to see a guy like you. I will be as clear as possible, NO you will not always get a YES do this, or YES xyz. Now, for anything more than what you did, just rephrase it with a, are you comfortable? Are you good? As long as you are GENUINE and your not pushing, THATS NORMAL!

Lastly, it's just a massage fr fr. In this context, be it her liking you or not, THATS a talk you should have with her openly. Or you could just play the cool dude, the choice is yours there is no "correct path" we all walked our own as we grew up. Just remember from the girls side, she doesn't want to have to explicitly say yes pls touch me. IT's this odd mix of comfort and in the moment. Most women want you to shut up at the start and then talk later, so it's just a matter of preference and stuff. And DEPENDING ON THE GIRL OR FRIENDS, I wouldn't even make it a dealio man. It was a massage, UNLESS you want it to be more, don't make it more in their minds lol OR you might find your social dynamics change QUICK! lol

In short if you want more, engage her and ask, if not, be a friend, who knows what she wanted or what cards she will play, just, you did well! Do not worry for what YOU have done! that was perfect lol. Maybe less self worry and talk, focus more on the girl if they are comfortable, than YOU if you are okay, but otherwise perfect lol!

Just my two cents from a 31 yr psychotherapist broski with a wife