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BlondeBobaFett t1_ixhn21n wrote

An hour isn’t that far apart… why not still see her?

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alittlebrownbird t1_ixj9h4z wrote

I met my husband on a ship on which he was working. It was challenging bc not only was he out of the country, he was out at sea and I never knew where he was going to be and when. But I knew I would regret it if I never tried to see what there was between us. Now we've been married for over 18 years, so, where there is a will, there is a way.

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CondensedRiver t1_ixho6p8 wrote

I can’t really go into details but when I say I really can’t, I can’t. Sorry for being kind of broad.

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Oakislife t1_ixhqwd3 wrote

Bro, I married a girl from the states and used to drive 16 hours to see her for a weekend before she moved to in with me, where there’s a will there’s a way.

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rmprice222 t1_ixjc6sy wrote

Dude is like 17/18, may not have a car and most likely lives with their parents.

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Sajomir t1_ixipozj wrote

I dated a girl from the other side of the US. (Wisconsin vs Arizona). We met for a couple weeks in high school when she was visiting a mutual friend, and hit it off.

We emailed constantly with occasional visits and when she was ready to move to my state (she was already planning to for other reasons) we finally got to date more regularly.

While that relationship eventually ended, I met my wife when we were a two hour drive apart.

Point being, a distance relationship has merit. Even if it's by phone or emails. Later on make the trip. Maybe she will be able to come see you until then.

Be honest with her. At least ask if she'd be willing to come visit and that you wanna keep seeing her, but you have trouble traveling right now.

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LazyChemist t1_ixiwppy wrote

I'm going to tell you this from an older guy who's been through the wringer. Of all the people who ever said "I can't" it's always been an "I won't". I won't put in the time and effort to make it happen. I won't do the homework to get it done. I won't.

This is your first life lesson as you enter adulthood. How much do you want it? This theme will repeat ad nauseam through out your life.

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454vette t1_ixkhpgo wrote

This from a parent who with my wife were host parents to 7 exchange students from all over the world . We also had 3 teenagers during those 8 years we hosted . No matter the country, teenagers are much alike the world over. Of the 7 students 4 have made return visits years later and some have made several return visits, one with her parents first and then with her husband twice and we have visited her twice. Next year another one is making a 2 nd visit with his wife and 2 children. What I am trying to say is you can maintain relationships regardless of distance. Save some money and visit her in her country. It doesn't have to be a love relationship just be friends whether it amounts to more so be it. One of things the exchange students taught us is they get to know people the world over and they visit one another. The have found it is cheap way to travel- just a plane ticket and a free place to stay. So you can maintain relationships regardless of distance if your willing to put in the effort.

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Vast_Reflection t1_ixhyeqb wrote

But unless she’s leaving because you creeped her out (which it doesn’t sound like it is) then why not send her a postcard, letter, text, or phone call?

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CondensedRiver t1_ixi2kdz wrote

When she switched from advanced to regular, her coordinator strongly advised against it and so she requested a move, we met afterwards and the move just came into affect. But yeah I don’t have a full liscence and so fourth. I’m going to stay in contact of course but I just can’t fathom only having digital communication. Either way it is what it is.

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Lampadaire345 t1_ixic8ma wrote

You can most likely buy bus tickets or train tickets to visit her. There's always a solution

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OMGoblin t1_ixidg6t wrote

She will probably have friends in her new school to be honest, lets be real this guy needs to chill he's known her for a hot second and it's literally high school lol. Like you said, public transportation exists but it's just not worth it for this fleeting acquantance, honestly the dude is already building a future with her after one lunch, it's a bit creepy.

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Lampadaire345 t1_ixieg1q wrote

Bro if they get along I dont see why they wouldn't see eachother. Let the kid live.

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Nilgnohc t1_ixhrn2s wrote

Try harder dumbass, or regret.

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lucissjustiss t1_ixknk5a wrote

Yesss bullying a high schooler for having feelings

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Nilgnohc t1_ixko9f0 wrote

That's bullying? You must have a glass heart.

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