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powerposepenguin t1_ja7jh6r wrote

Tbh I felt like moving in together had so much more impact on my day to day live than marriage. Do you expect anything to change after a wesding? For me it definitely didn't, and that's awesome and just the way we wanted it. Because the relationship should be good enough for the rest of your life to begin with. Just saying it out loud to a lot of people you know isn't meant for everyone. I never liked attention in my life and I would shit my pants at the idea of a wedding.

It sounds like you are afraid that he isn't as committed as you are. Just because he doesn't like the idea of a wedding doesn't mean hes not committed though. Take a step back, and try to analyse what you feel.

Is it the fear of his commitment? Is the rest of the relationship crumbling down or still strong? Do you want to marry him, or do you mostly want to get married?

I hope you'll figure it out! Maybe he's ready to spend the rest of his life with you, he just doesn't show it the same way as you!

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ZeroRozuMagika t1_ja7xph4 wrote

I guess maybe it did make me wonder if he really cared about me… which is stupid, I’m such an over thinker anyways.

I don’t know yet if I want to marry him. It’s too early in my opinion to make that call. But if everything goes well, then hopefully yes he’s the one I want to marry. We moved in together because we were spending most nights together so it just made sense.

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powerposepenguin t1_ja80ezk wrote

Sounds like you are definitely in a loving relationship then, you two could maybe talk about love language. The way that you feel loved and the way you show your love to him and visa versa. Either way I think you can figure that out as the foundation of your relationship sounds pretty solid :)

Another tip could be that you can write down what you want to hear from him? That he is looking for someone in his life that he might spend the rest of his life with. Not yet, but let him say it out loud that it's just the marriage part he doesn't like. He probably does see you as a potential life partner, even though you're both not ready to decide that.

And overthinking doesn't have to bad! Makes you a critical thinker, less likely of doing something impulsive. Shows you're smart too.

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