guardian2428 t1_j9xut1z wrote on February 25, 2023 at 10:05 AM

Did the SA verbal physical mental lead to charges I.e. if you're 11 at the time 3 yrs making a max of 14 that there is at least stat rape depending on the offenders age. Regardless of that they need to be reprimanded

guardian2428 t1_j9xuwuk wrote on February 25, 2023 at 10:07 AM

Also with your history you would be sensitive to comments. Explain that you understand where he's coming from and explain where you're coming from. Communication is key

Singsalotoday t1_j9yg2qh wrote on February 25, 2023 at 2:13 PM

I don’t think reprimanded is the word you are looking for as normally this just means to be told off. The perpetrator (depending on the age) deserves legal consequence if at all possible. Given that the last of it happened 4 years ago it might not be possible. If the perpetrator was the same age they likely need/ needed extreme behavioral rehab.

Throwawaymybrain18 OP t1_j9z70ni wrote on February 25, 2023 at 5:25 PM

So my ex was three years older than me at the time. I tried to take legal action but the authorities in my area (a small town) are family friends with the police and they refused to listen to me and outright ignored all my physical injuries and pictures and texts of proof. My family already didn't support me going to the police so after that attempt they said that I couldn't anymore. My ex later moved out of state so I'm not sure where he ended up. Thank you though!!

Singsalotoday t1_ja07ibt wrote on February 25, 2023 at 9:29 PM

A 14 year old “dating” an 11 year old makes my stomach turn a bit to think about and I’m sad that no one (parents, family, friends) called this out/intervened on your behalf even without knowing other details. For your sake, I’m glad that person is out of your life for good. For others’ sake, I hope he got psychological help. I’m glad you are considering the work of healing because you deserve that.