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notanotheramber t1_j2itxsw wrote

Reply to comment by ItalianMama95 in Homeless with a 3 year old by ItalianMama95

This is the dumbest thing I've ever heard. Living in a car will default child to "abusive" dad immediately. Get your shit together, stop worrying about dating, and provide a stable life for your child. Your run out of one man's arms into another.

Not to mention the kid has a passport in your possession and left the country with you legally. Don't make stupid excuses for sympathy.

Also: your biggest concern is keeping the child entertained in a car... But the ex is giving back the car

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ItalianMama95 OP t1_j2ju4hi wrote

I had no choice but to move in with this man, I felt like my life was in danger. I called every shelter in MA, RI and CT and not a single shelter could help me. I called for months.

Also my ex has to give me back my car when I return as it is my car, solely in my name.

Who are you to judge? If you have nothing nice to say keep your judge comments to yourself or take them elsewhere. I am seeking advice while I do what I know I need to do. I put my son first always. They will not take my son if I am seeking shelter and working with a shelter to find a place. Just because you’re life is easier than mine don’t tell me to focus on providing a stable life for my child when that is exactly what I am doing, alone in a country with no help or guidance.

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notanotheramber t1_j2juqss wrote

So if you had to move in with him you should have been making moves for your own spot from second one and not relied on him for anything. Must be nice to be "homeless" yet fly over seas for holidays... "Hey family, I'm f'n homeless, can I get a deposit on a place instead of 2 plane tickets?" Or if you bought the plane tickets then you should have known better.

These are dumb decisions. I am judging. I'm a single mom. Get it together it's about your child, not you. Keeping my child safe and housed is priority one, I didn't date or have sex for 4 years after her father left. Don't tell me whose life is easier, I just put my kid first. You probably got an iphone too. Just dumb.

Edit: also.... How to keep my 3 year old busy in a car we live in.... Why? Would the bored 3 year old ruin your good time? Yes. The entertainment of the 3 year old is what's important here. Stupid.

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ItalianMama95 OP t1_j2jzdwe wrote

Excuse you, maybe if you had read other comments then you would learn that I did make moves for my own place. I was in transitional housing. My sons daycare closed in June suddenly so I lost my job due to lack of childcare. I couldn’t just leave him with family or a friend because I have none in the us. If I can’t work, guess what, I can’t pay the fee to stay in transitional housing. The shelter gave me 30 days notice and said I had to leave. My mother bought our plane tickets to the uk and has been paying for us for the last 2 months and has given me money to help. However, I can’t just get an apartment without enough money for first, last and deposit or 2 of those. I can’t get an apartment without a job showing I have 3x the rent. I can’t get a job without childcare. So don’t talk to me about knowing better, I made decisions from the options I had. Maybe you would have done different but our situations are different, our options in life are different, you do not face the same struggles as me. So take your unkind words elsewhere because you are not helping me or my situation in anyway and just bringing more negativity to a bad situation. Way to kick another mother whilst she’s already down.

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cassettecollect t1_j2khigv wrote

All the comments are telling you the same thing. If you come here and endanger your child, you will lose custody.

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