cat_astr0naut t1_iy89wgl wrote on November 29, 2022 at 2:25 PM

A friend of mine just sent me this and asked me if it's about me, and sure seems like it.

Jaques T., is this you? I can't believe you would try and get validation from the internet of all things, do you realize how pathetic this all is?

I talked to your ex-spouses. All three of them. That I didn't even knew EXISTED until YESTERDAY! They told me everything about your little secrets, every bit of it, and you can bet your ass it's all over between us.

To the curious people here on reddit, what happened is this fanged fuck-up has been using "tradition" as a convenient way to keep brides tied up with him, isolating and gaslighting them, all the while fucking around as he wanted.

And because the Vampire Divorce Court was ridiculously slow and antiquated, they couldn't get divorced easily, but that changed recently. Thank god your ex-spouses are much better people than you could ever hope to be, and they are helping me out.

I feel like an idiot to have wasted all this time with you, but 4 years is nothing compared to what could have been. Thinking back, the love-bombing was obvious. And the controling attitude, and everything else... I'm just realizing just how toxic this whole relationship was. The age difference was just the cherry on top (he's 400 years older than he told me!!).

So yeah, we are over. Your things are on the curb outside and I might have sprinkled garlic all over it. Now I'm going on a vacation with my new friends.

A little message from them:

Grace-Marie wishes your day to be as pleasant as you are.

Gustav says "Va te faire foutre."

Caterina wanted you ro remember that the prenup is still valid, and that she will see you in court very soon.

And from me, from the bottom of my heart: Fuck you, Jaques.

Crystal1501 OP t1_iy8frmk wrote on November 29, 2022 at 3:10 PM

[Author's Note: I'd have happily played along with this as if I WERE Jaques, but I already did an 'edit' where I worked things out with my spouse, so...]

Really? One of my own did that? Jaques... if I knew who he was, I'd so go over and beat him up on your behalf! That sounds so abusive! I'm so sorry you went through that!

As I said in my edit, I had talked it out with my fiancé, I'm not a manipulative bastard. I truly and genuinely love her. I want what's best for her, and we'll do what we can to make the marriage work.

What really disgusts me is how tradition was used to keep you 'in line'. That's genuinely messed up. The reason I brought up tradition at all is, in my family, tradition is sacred, but I'd NEVER use it to CONTROL someone. I hope you find someone better, and please don't hate all our kind over one moronic psychopath.

Wish you luck!

cat_astr0naut t1_iy8pnt8 wrote on November 29, 2022 at 4:19 PM

[No worries! This was a fun prompt, I really liked it.]

Sorry about this, I really thought it was Jaques. It seems problems with the biting tradition in Vampire-Human marriage are more common than I thought.

In my opinion, and while I understand that tradition is important to you and your family, changing your bride ro fit in with your family? Shouldn't you be doing it because you want to spend eternity together?

Times are changing, and it's a little degrading that a vampire would automatically expect that the human bride be complicent to be turned to fit in with the expectations. The human is to give up their last name, their identity, their way of life, their mortality, their reflection on the mirror.

In my case, instead of being to fit in, being bitten was a way to "prove my love" to Jaques, but the point stands. The bite should be a mutual decision, or not at all, and it's not an easy decision.

You seem like a nicer guy than he was, so a piece of advice. Talk with your bride, have honest and open conversations about the pro and cons of a transformation, and listen to what she says. A marriage is a partnership, after all.

Best of luck!

Crystal1501 OP t1_iy8rxnf wrote on November 29, 2022 at 4:34 PM

We plan to re-visit this before the wedding, she decided to try out the vampire lifestyle for now. Even if she decides not to turn, I'll still want her. My family would be upset, but screw em! I love her!

But yeah, it was just miscommunication and misunderstandings, I plan to keep the relationship more open going forward.

As for you, I hope you find someone who loves you for who you are, not WHAT you are!