I'm sorry that you are having such difficulties with your child's School and education. A parent's rights and children's rights should always be handed out at these meetings at least I always got them. On more than one occasion I would have an off the record chat with one of the teachers or teacher aids from his class throughout the years. There have been occasions where I have had to have a consultation with a lawyer and the lawyer types up and sends off a letter saying that they are representing the parent and student it's enough to show that you mean business and get things done at least in my experience. The bottom line is every school and every District as a whole gets x amount of federal funds per child with an IEP or 504 if you threaten to take away that funding nine times out of 10 things will be done the way they should. And I know that that shouldn't be the case but working with in reality that may have to be the case.