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raynedanser t1_je715pf wrote

Reply to comment by Yourbubblestink in My mom wants a “Viking Funeral” here in Maine. How can I set that up? by Mildly_maria

Every time i answer a funeral question, I'm attacked every single time like I'm somehow responsible for it. I'm not. Just answering a question, so move on instead of taking it out on me (anyone, not just you). And no, not all burials are green in the end. - the processes are completely different. You're still dead and buried in the end. But not green. No.

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lillianambrose t1_je7341n wrote

Yours is work that must be done, regardless of the condition of the industry. I’m sorry you’re treated like that.

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raynedanser t1_je7jzap wrote

Thank you, I appreciate this. It's the same idea as grieving families, I think. I'm a face to take frustrations out on. Grief can often make people act out of character, for sure.

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Yourbubblestink t1_je76us6 wrote

My intent was not to attack you but rather just to comment an industry that consists entirely of smoke and mirrors. It’s obviously an industry we need in some form

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raynedanser t1_je7d8dv wrote

I appreciate this. I understand it's an industry that is both not understood and necessary and a lot of people are pissy because they can't just open up a hole and drop Grampa in it. There's policies and procedures and due process to this whether people like it or not.

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Yourbubblestink t1_je7dru8 wrote

It never really occurred to me for some reason that people planning a funeral might be pissy toward the funeral director

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raynedanser t1_je7eabz wrote

More like ... Our staff are easy people to take out grief and frustrations on. We're trained to deal with grief and we're strangers, so some people can act out more than others. And some are just jerks and it's more evident when they're grieving. We're not your enemy and are actually trying to help you.

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Lissma t1_je77e9m wrote

Hey, you probably interact with me often professionally and I want to say the funeral directors in this state are awesome people and i love talking to them. A Massachusetts director got all in his feelings about me using the term "green burial" the other day and I'm like "chill out my guy I'm making conversation while I look up the information you want."

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raynedanser t1_je7dfdo wrote

It's very possible I do. :) Feel free to PM me if you wish. ;-)

We try. I'm not a director, I'm in the office, so I'm first line when someone calls us. I put up with a LOT of crap sometimes, but try to be patient because the people I'm dealing with have just had their world rocked and are trying their best to cope. Some people do it better than others.

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Lissma t1_je7gchu wrote

It's not letting me message you :/

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