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TheKidsAreAsleep t1_ixm2coe wrote

I think this is a good tip for people with emotionally healthy families.

I deeply regret the time I spent with my dad over the years. He has been gone over twenty years now and I have not missed him yet.

Pro tip: Life is short. Spend yours with people who care about you.

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asleepaddict t1_ixm7iv3 wrote

Also, spend it with people who truly bring you happiness. Not everyone cares in a healthy manner, despite the loving words they say.

When you grow up with an unstable family, it is easy to wind up with unstable friends or partners. Stay aware, and stand up for yourself.

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audiate t1_ixm84lc wrote

My dad never came in for a chat. He was either yelling or swinging.

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IrredeemableJoke t1_ixme7d8 wrote

My dad was the same. When I heard his foot steps approaching my door I'd instinctively brace myself for what's to come. I hope you're doing well. I'm still recovering from the damage it did to me

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nobutactually t1_ixm9ue7 wrote

Agreed. Wish I could have escaped more of my dad's chats. My life is a much better place without him in it.

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jackback52 t1_ixm8jrp wrote

This

My dads only been gone for 5 months and i still think about him everyday.

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DontTaintMeBro t1_ixmd5s8 wrote

It'll be 5 years for me next week. Still think about him every day too.

It gets easier, but never easy. Stay strong!

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CheezedBeefins t1_ixmfn04 wrote

I feel like ya maybe glossed over the part where he hates his dad.

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360walkaway t1_ixmdiyu wrote

Thank you. All these tips assume a lot about stability.

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rentalredditor t1_ixm8m8v wrote

You deeply regret the time you spent with your dad?

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MothMan3759 t1_ixm9xxk wrote

My life would have been exponentially better without my stepfather being in it

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rentalredditor t1_ixmb0at wrote

That's a bummer. I hope you have others in your life that truly care about you. Happy Thanksgiving

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TheKidsAreAsleep t1_ixmdd1y wrote

Thanks! I am really lucky to have made it to adulthood but I am married with two amazing kids. Life is good!

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mapex_139 t1_ixma7js wrote

My dad was an asshole and a con artist against his own family. He's been gone a year and I only think about him when my mother mentions him.

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TheKidsAreAsleep t1_ixmf57o wrote

Yep. He was a trip. Loved to tell me that I should kill myself. Gave specific recommendations as to how he thought I should do it. Asked if I needed supplies, etc.

In public, he loved to say “there is nothing more important than for a child to be wanted” while looking right at me.

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