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TaxableLichen t1_j9xjtg3 wrote

How has the reputation of stripping changed? Do you feel like sex work/ entertainment has lost some of the stigma that used to be attached to it?

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video_call_girl t1_j9xk6to wrote

Good question. I feel like these days online 'stripping' or adult entertainment is a big thing. Whereas it never used to be. Online platforms to showcase adult entertainment seem to be more socially acceptable then In Real Life services seem to be.

When I was dancing, stripping still had a lot of stigma attached to it. Escorting was also seen as way wayyyy worse by the strippers. I dont think the stigma has been greatly reduced, maybe a tiny bit. The thing about stigma is that that is actually the thing that us girls profit off. So the more stigma, the less people willing to do the work, the more money.

If I had my time again, I wouldn't tell anyone. I would keep my stripping career completely secret.

People cant discriminate against you if they dont know..

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ImmanualKant t1_j9xkcct wrote

Why did you quit? What do you do now?

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video_call_girl t1_j9xkm10 wrote

I quit after 10 years because I was so sick of living a double life. I also felt like it was stopping me from having a healthy relationship. Now I think that was a limiting belief. After I stopped stripping I delved into a legitimate business headfirst and made that highly successful after a few years.

Mid last year I found myself burnt out in my business, so I'm now exploring other adult entertainment related avenues. Essentially Ill be doing my 'normal' business and some online adult things as a second business in the future.

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rbdparker t1_j9xmymc wrote

Realestate??

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video_call_girl t1_j9xn789 wrote

Lol my normal business is not real estate. ;) I wont disclose it because I have real life clients that I dont need to know about my stripping history. If you're asking do I invest in real estate? No, according to my research, Shares is a better and less stressful investment for me personally. So all my savings are sitting in a diversified share portfolio. Mostly EFTs.

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techtonic69 t1_j9xnqti wrote

But by trying to prove you were a stripper you linked your calendar, which should have your picture. If you are worried about someone who you work with finding out and they have reddit they would potentially see the photo.

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spudddly t1_j9xth5k wrote

Just because she's done sex work doesn't mean she'll stoop low enough to become a real estate agent.

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Nick_Bourbaki t1_j9xpwo9 wrote

When you do a pole dance, do you spin the opposite direction of strippers in the northern hemisphere?

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video_call_girl t1_j9xqddn wrote

Baha thats a technical question but I would love to know if you find out.

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FelineOverlord t1_j9xl178 wrote

How has being a stripper for 10 years affected for impression of men? Do you have trouble seeing any other motivation for men's actions besides sex? When I try to place myself in your shoes, I can understand how the thousands of interactions at the strip club would alter my perception.

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video_call_girl t1_j9xlqg3 wrote

Since the end of my stripping career Ive had 2 healthy relationships. Currently in one now and planning to get engaged and married. I can see lots of different sides to my partner, but yes I do think he's primary motivation is sex sometimes..

Its more just made me realise that all people can be cheeky, all people can be sneaky, all people can be good and just because you want to work the sex industry, doesnt mean your a bad person.

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insaneintheblain t1_j9xjhou wrote

Did you get sick of the seedy nature of it all?

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video_call_girl t1_j9xjou6 wrote

Not really. All the clubs I worked at you would consider big. So the average amount I would make per night was $1700. $900 on a bad night, and around $2300 on a great night. I never really found it seedy. The hardest thing was living in secrecy. Or having people that knew, have some 'dirt' on me. It was very hard to retire.

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viewstheyareachangin t1_j9xkejm wrote

Do you get an Australian version of a W2 or some annual income summary for tax purposes, and generally does your profession accurately report income (entertainers, owners, etc.) or is it a little lax being cash heavy. Does Australia tie income to other safety nets, like if you were injured performing, couldn’t work, retire, etc. in other words do you feel secure in this profession?

Any aspirations beyond clubs, like your own photo business? Is there room for performers to take the next step in the industry or very challenging to move on as an employee contractor or just woman generally? Why/why not?

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video_call_girl t1_j9xl97f wrote

I think these days adult entertainment providers would best to take online platforms serious as a stream of income.

If you get injured at work, best bet is to have saved up enough to carry you through as Im not sure about insurances. Back in the day it was pretty much all cash. But now days there is less and less cash transactions.

Yes I currently have a normal businesses and some online adult projects that Im building up. You can take the stripper out of the club, but you can never take the club out of the stripper...

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noshore4me t1_j9xkqr4 wrote

What were your top 3 songs to dance to? Also, who do you think is the most famous Australian artist (musician, actor, painter, writer, etc) to have made a lasting mark on the world stage?

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video_call_girl t1_j9xl0qv wrote

I liked:

'Dance A$$ remix' feat Ncky Minaj,

'The Look' by Roxett

'Stereo Love' by Edward Maya and Vika Jigulina

Australian actors, either Nicole Kidman or Cate Blanchet.

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noshore4me t1_j9zd6oy wrote

Holy shit, I haven't even thought of Roxette in years! Stereo Love seems timeless though. Thanks

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sidvicc t1_j9xlps6 wrote

I might be dating myself and can't believe no one's asked this yet:

What happens in the Champagne Room?

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video_call_girl t1_j9xm1g3 wrote

We dont have champaign rooms in Australia. Not in the 9+ clubs I worked in on the East Coast. We have VIP areas, but they're literally just for longer/ more private lap dances.

I've read and heard a lot of stuff about how in the US the girls make their money by giving blow jobs and sex. 100% that is not how it is in Australia. There were nights during my career I let a customer touch too much and I was sent home/ fired. There's plenty of touching clubs where you're still not allowed to do sexual acts. Going home with customers was a fireable offence in nearly all the clubs.

There was only one club in Canberra at the end of my career where they didn't care about mild sex acts. Like pussy touching. I got really dirty there. Probably because I was older and more daring. The owners saw me on camera and had a joke with me about it. So yes.. no Champaign rooms, thats a myth in Australia.

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LuxLocke t1_j9xkhsz wrote

I imagine the money is great (also noted your estimated income stated in another’s comment). After ten years… I imagine you could retire, would you share a rough savings? I’ve heard from other workers most the money gets dumped back into lifestyle and not savings.

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video_call_girl t1_j9xlf2e wrote

Yes so Im not sure if it was because I was in my 20s or it was just too easy come easy go. But all my income would go back on lifestyle. I would also take large amounts of time off. I didn't start saving properly until my normal business bloomed. Now I have about $80K in savings. I just didn't have the financially literacy or the self worth to hold onto the money back then.

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mikehutsom88 t1_j9xkit9 wrote

What was the most memorable encounter you had while working?

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video_call_girl t1_j9xliyq wrote

When I was dancing at a club in Adelaide one night. I guy came in. I was sitting on his lap figuring out how much he was going to give me.. he says 'whats the most amount of money you have made in a night'. I say 'about $2300'. He says 'okay, you're going to make more then that tonight. Then he proceeded to give me more then that.

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geefunken t1_j9xnafh wrote

Did you get cold?

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video_call_girl t1_j9xnwll wrote

Sometimes when I wasnt moving, You can sit out the back with a jumper and pants on tho if you want too..

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fusiongt021 t1_j9xkjc5 wrote

How was the pay? Make more then or now

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video_call_girl t1_j9xkrcj wrote

Good question. I was super consistent across the 10 years. As mentioned in another comment. $1700 was my average. $900 on a bad night and around $2300 on a great night.

In the 10 years I had some outlier nights. There may have been two terrible nights in the middle of winter I made $60. There also may have been some crazy good nights during the Christmas season where I made $2500- $2700. I never left the clubs to F anyone so I just made money from lap dances.

Oh an in terms of do I make more now or then... Hmmm Nov/ Dec/ Jan you would say I make more now. But Im having a pretty bad month this month financially.

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LazyChemist t1_j9xlcn6 wrote

What would you say was your annual salary?

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video_call_girl t1_j9xm7lr wrote

Around $150K. I would work around 2 nights a week on average. Some weeks 1 night, some weeks 3 nights. I would also take weeks if not months off. I was also drinking a lotttt and partying a lottt in the first 5 years.

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cheesebrah t1_j9xo8y6 wrote

yup this is the lifestyle. i was a bouncer at a club for a bit and was amazed at how alot of the girls were always broke. than i figured it out quick. most had vices. lol.

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ihave2blackfriends t1_j9xr2ek wrote

If, in the future, your daughter wanted to strip would you encourage or discourage it and what advice would you give?

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video_call_girl t1_j9xrct2 wrote

Mmm juicy question. Look I believe I fell into the sex industry at 18 after experiencing a lot of childhood trauma and abandonment. I was also in a sexually abusive non consensual relationship for 3 years as a teenager. Basically being raped. I believe that girls who end up stripping or fucking for money have fragmented boundaries. I wanted validation sexually for some reason...

Ive done extensive spiritual and emotional healing work on myself since the age of 24, so nearly 9 years. I would really hope that my future daughter would not have the desire to gravitate to that industry. That being said, if she does, then I would support her and not make her feel any shame about the choice to become a stripper or escort. I would encourage her to have multiple streams of income and do stripping along with another job. Or start her own business and do both for a while.

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djnielse t1_j9xl29v wrote

Did you or security ever have to call the cops on a guest? What happened?

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video_call_girl t1_j9xmeqp wrote

There were plenty of times groups of bucks would get thrown out of the clubs. Lots of near fights happened on the streets right in front of the cameras. I personally only got a customer in trouble once or twice from harassing me. I was more like a money obsessed robot, so I just went from guy to guy trying to fleece them for their money. I didnt get too caught up with drama and the other girls.

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BigPoppaFlex t1_j9xl3mc wrote

What’s it like down under?

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video_call_girl t1_j9xm9m5 wrote

Pretty good. Its probably very similar to the USA but more outdoorsy.

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Ok-Bed6343 t1_j9xm60u wrote

What really happens in the VIP room?

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video_call_girl t1_j9xmomi wrote

In Australian VIP rooms the same thing happens, compared with the normal lapdance rooms. Depending on the club the VIP rooms might be for 1 hour dances or longer. Or they might be booked out by a bucks party to host a 'show' in. Its not common for sex or blow jobs to happen. Any girl that tries that would normally be sent home/ fired. That being said, there may be more underground strip clubs/ brothels that do allow that kind of thing. I worked at the mainstream big clubs.

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Repulsive-Ad-3890 t1_j9xnegx wrote

What was your workout routine like? How has your workout changed now that you’re not as active?

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video_call_girl t1_j9xnv11 wrote

I used to have no workout routein at all. The stripping itself makes you loose weight. being in heels for a 9 hour shift and dancing on stage make you loose a lot of weight. Straight after I stopped I gained 7 kilos and it was incredibly hard to loose the weight. Im now about 5 kg over my stripping weight at the end of my career, Although, I sat around 50kilos for the first few years when I took a lot of dr*gs.

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Wizard4877 t1_j9xod20 wrote

After using paint stripper do you go through a HAZMAT style disposal?

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Prince_Milk t1_j9xp8q2 wrote

So obviously for the people that enjoy going to the strip club, its a very sexy thing. Presumibly they think it's sexy. Did it work the other way around though? Was there ever anything sexually pleasurable about being the one stripping? I've always assumed that like... usually not? Not that it would be a bad thing! Just an assumption. but thats something I've always wondered about the profession.

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video_call_girl t1_j9xprag wrote

In the last few years the actual stripping turned me on. So if I hadnt worked in 5 days or a week and I started taking my clothes off, I would get turned on. Towards the end of my career I also worked in a very loose club somewhere rural. I was getting up to all kinds of touching mischief there... I was pretty turned on. Im sure a customer made me come, or I made myself come on the customer. I would occasionally get so turned on at the start of a night i would go to the toilet and make myself come. Then come back and work a bit more seriously.

Ive had plenty of guys also come in their pants from me grinding on them during a dance. I've also danced on guys soaking wet from drink spills. Also danced on guys that have literally pissed their pants and dont realise.

For the first 5-7 years I was very robotic. If you're working night after night you get desensitised. You also dont get pleasure as its just clothes on, clothes off, relentlessly for 9+ hours.

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Prince_Milk t1_j9xpzp6 wrote

That's interesting that it turned you on in the later years and not the early ones, I might have guessed the opposite. Cause of yeah, the desnsitization. But the truth is way hotter. XD thanks for the response.

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video_call_girl t1_j9xqc81 wrote

haha no worries. Yes I can see how people would think its the opposite. I think tho that as you get older as a women, you get naughtier and more confident.

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Nutteria t1_j9xpmot wrote

Is it true that stripping is the slippery slope to escorting or things evolved from the time where it actually was like that?

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video_call_girl t1_j9xq7o1 wrote

Thats a good question and i think if differs from girl to girl. When I first started stripping at age 18 I did leave the club with a couple clients. I had sex with them for money and it was quite a bad experience. Like i was out of my depth leaving the club and i didnt have the boundaries to be like 'OKAY TIMES UP, IM GOING'. I also got drugged and raped in my early 20s under the pretence of an unofficial escort job.

After that I focused on JUST being a stripper. After I retired I had a little stint of JUST being an escort, not stripping in clubs. That went well, because I was much older (30s). I think escorting is better for mature women. I dont think its a great job for party girls in their 20s who dont know their boundaries. Because once your on an outcall or at someone's house, its easy for them to start dictating how the situation is going to go. You have to have really strong boundaries and REALLY have your shit together to consistently deal with real life escorting.

That being said, at my age now, I know a bunch of girls who have been in the industry for 15 years. Since they were 18 to late 30s. Many of them are strippers and escorts. They do both. They do a mix of work where they're working privately and through agencies, so they just do everything. In my history, Ive concentrated on one type of profession at a time..

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Giovanni1996 t1_j9xpwmj wrote

Whats the worst/grossest/weirdest thing you saw and the most heart-warming thing you saw during work?

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video_call_girl t1_j9xqjz2 wrote

The worst/ grossest would be the 10+ guys I danced on after they had pissed their own pants.

The most heart warming thing.. Mmmm maybe just the camaraderie amongst the girls. I still feel like the sisterhood in the sex industry is pretty strong compared with other industries. Despite the competition. I also met some great men who were short term regulars, who I really liked. I went to Cambodia with one on an extended party holiday.

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thecratskyone t1_j9xrw5o wrote

What is your top three pieces of advice for anyone thinking of getting into that industry?

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video_call_girl t1_ja68ir0 wrote

  • Save and invest all your money into conservative share portfolios or EFTS.
  • Have another stream of income so you're not solely reliant on stripping.
  • Keep it completely to yourself. Keep it completely separate from your real life.
  • If you get a boyfriend, lie and tell him you do something else for work. They do not need to know.
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biged0034 t1_j9xkzmb wrote

Did you have any creepy weirdo clients during that time?

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video_call_girl t1_j9xlkdj wrote

None of them are that weird in the clubs. Because theres cameras and security everywhere. I embrace the weirdos, we just wanted their money.

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FiguresMayVary t1_j9xlhna wrote

Are there really giant spiders everywhere?

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video_call_girl t1_j9xm2lj wrote

in Australia? Not where I live lol.

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Unreal2427 t1_j9xmgpw wrote

I live on farmland in Aus

Spiders... everywhere...

If I leave my boots outside they need to be thoroughly inspected... because spiders can and do crawl in them...

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unknown_poison t1_j9xna8i wrote

How old are you now? Do you find that you have more customers now that you are older?

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video_call_girl t1_j9xo4c4 wrote

Im now 33 and have been retired from stripping in clubs for 4.5 years. Im now doing different stuff in my businesses and have clients. I never was someone that had a lot of stripping 'regulars'. I more just ran from customer to customer and didnt like chatting to them that much. Now that Im older ,I would probably focus on getting more regulars and fleecing them for as much as possible. I didnt really like any emotional intimacy with customers when I was stripping.. Having regulars requires more emotional intimacy and relationship building in my opinion.

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drunkmunky88 t1_j9xq0go wrote

Not that I don't believe you I just find it funny that your proof is a picture of a calendar from a strip club from 2012 lol. Even if it's not true horny dudes will believe anything so you have nothing to worry about.

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video_call_girl t1_j9xr38c wrote

With 430 million monthly Reddit users, I'm not too worried about anyone identifying little ol strippy, slutty me ;))) just saying.

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Decabet t1_j9xnwhe wrote

Does Australia have fun Aussie slang words for aspects of stripping? Like do they call boobs like “bongarongoos” or anything like that?

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video_call_girl t1_j9xoai1 wrote

Haha. Um well we call them 'lappies' for lap dances. And even today amongst the girls we refer to any kind of sex work or stripping as 'going for a cheeky'. If you're enquiring with another girl about her work, the language would be, 'how's cheekies going?'

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