You can do this if you seek out restaurants that do pay their staff they way you think they should. But otherwise, you know the deal when you walk in. You’re just violating the social compact and stealing without actually doing a single thing to change it.

Now you have experienced what it’s like to deliver a line that can destroy someone. Remember what that’s like and only do it when consciously choose to from now on.

But to the extent there was truth in what you said, maybe talk about that with your dad when you are speaking again.

In this story, your dad didn’t realize when he went too far and in response you went further, which was also too far. Why do you have to be the more grown up person about this?