Yes Rule Yes

In the absence of Rule, no wonder there was anarchy

It's civilly enforced (you sue).

You're looking for freedom from consequences, then.

And, unless there's something going on that you didn't mention, you're probably overestimating how far anyone would go out of their way to interfere with your job prospects.

I agree with the other commenter but I want to add that it is true that changing the law wouldn't prevent people from having marriage ceremonies, though. I knew people who were in same-sex marriages before Obergefell (in a red state).

They had their ceremonies and celebrations just the same as usual. It's just that when the rubber hits the road and, say, one of them ends up in the hospital and the other isn't allowed to visit because they're not "really" married-- situations like that-- you see how the legal rights and affects of a state-recognized marriage are unjustly missing.