changerofbits

changerofbits t1_j6lugjq wrote

OP back at the restaurant at closing and catches the waitress leaving: “Hi, this is awkward, but I wanted to apologize if what I did earlier in the night upset you. I’ve been studying a lot lately and my eyes, uhh, oh no, my eyes, they, crap (starts pulling on eyes while bowing over in pain and letting out high pitch kung fu-like noises of relief) Where are you going? No, I’m not trying to do anything offensive! I swear! You don’t have to run away…”

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changerofbits t1_j5qnmbt wrote

I mean, I understand why he got dragged, but it wasn’t because he’s a psycho. He obviously loves you OP, and that made him make two horrible decisions:

  1. He stayed the relationship when you asked for an open emotional and physical relationship with one specific person who was and still is (assuming Christina is the “friend” who pointed you to his post) a threat to your relationship with him.

  2. Doing something spiteful to you because he was hurt that you chose someone else.

But you made an equally horrible decision by not breaking up with him when you found out what he did. You too doubled down on a bad hand and decided to stay with him, and now you two have a child on the way.

My advice is to get individual therapy, and ask him to get couples therapy, to be able to functionally coparent the kid at least, and secondarily to figure out if you two can salvage a healthy romantic relationship (he also has lingering issues about what you want).

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changerofbits t1_j10jwfo wrote

Like most of the popular posts in this sub, it really boils down to your definition of “realistic”. Like, there’s a huge difference between theoretically realistic or scientifically realistic vs economically realistic or politically realistic. The concepts you list seem realistic from a scientific standpoint. Will they be viable in a real world scenario? Possibly, but that question is so much harder to answer.

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changerofbits t1_j0zvbnt wrote

Eh, that’s pretty anecdotal, and there were genetic freaks before. Nolan Ryan and Kareem Abdul-Jabbar both had long, highly productive careers. I’m not saying sports medical science hasn’t improved a lot, but it’s not like there simply weren’t late 30s or early 40s people competing at a high level. I suppose you could argue that the games are more competitive these days, and that if not for medical improvements, people would otherwise have had to retire earlier.

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changerofbits t1_ir22bu1 wrote

I’m not a skateboarder (probably due to growing up in the middle of nowhere with a mile of dirt road to the nearest pavement, which is a highway, and many more miles before reaching anything resembling an actual sidewalk), but my expert opinion is that this move is pretty damn cool.

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