LorenzoStomp

LorenzoStomp t1_je9bfi2 wrote

How does it work with things like infections, infestations, etc? Like you have cellulitis or scabies, where you might be okay right now but it can kill you or spread to others if not treated quickly?

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LorenzoStomp t1_je998t6 wrote

No. Codependency is when one person relies on another for their needs, while the other neglects their own needs to support their partner, who does not reciprocate the support. A healthy couple gives and takes in turn, a codependent couple is one person leeching off another. Generally the supporting partner has low self esteem and derives their sense of self-worth from providing, but this becomes untenable as their own needs go unmet and they eventually burn out.

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LorenzoStomp t1_je98h56 wrote

It's "co"dependent because usually the one person relies entirely on the other for their needs and the other person relies on being needed for their sense of purpose. Person A can't handle their life responsibilities and Person B feels useless unless they are constantly proving their worth by doing for others (and usually neglecting themselves).

A child is naturally dependent, but if the mother makes mothering her whole identity and worth in life, now it's a codependancy (and there will likely be issues as the child naturally becomes more independent and the mother resists losing her sense of self).

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LorenzoStomp t1_jded6jl wrote

There are people on this website who don't know you need to scrub your legs, I think we'd have to dumb it way further down to get to "too basic to be useful" territory

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LorenzoStomp t1_ja4qk96 wrote

Sure. Basically your issue is that you have formed some ways of thinking about lyrics that do not line up with reality and are causing you stress. Cognitive Behavior Therapy and other methods can help you to retrain how you think about lyrics and how your brain creates negative beliefs like this so that you can let go of the stress you are already causing yourself and prevent developing new damaging patterns.

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LorenzoStomp t1_j9yydrc wrote

This is a common issue in, for some reason, just the southwest quadrant of my local beltway. If you try to merge left, some one behind you and further left will see that your blinker is on and move to be in your way before you can complete the merge. Other areas have their own quirks but in that section everyone thinks it's Mad Max time, and using your blinker is giving information to the enemy.

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LorenzoStomp t1_j9og2an wrote

Its always a good idea to check in with your partner. After all, you are part of a team, they're not just some furniture that comes with the house (and what if your couch started doing something it didn't usually do? You'd definitely check on that, right?). But I wouldn't necessarily put "just" before "depressed". I'm sure you didn't mean it but it kinda comes off like, "Oh no, are you gonna leave me?! Oh, you're just depressed, no worries then. Just so long as my status quo's not affected." I've been in situations where my partner was refusing to get help for mental problems and the only way to push them towards getting help was for the relationship to end (they needed the change to motivate them and allow them to focus). I've also left relationships because I was depressed and not getting any support and being expected to continue my half of things with no help was dragging me down further. Sometimes both things happened at once. Either situation sucks for everyone involved but it was the right thing to happen.

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