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LorenzoStomp t1_je99kfb wrote
Reply to comment by [deleted] in ELI5: What is codependency? Why is it unhealthy? by [deleted]
No it isn't, this person is trying to claim that relationships with normal give-and-take are being pathologized by "society" but a codependent relationship is one-sided. One person only takes and the other only gives, until they burn out (or are replaced by the taker).
LorenzoStomp t1_je998t6 wrote
Reply to comment by GReaperEx in ELI5: What is codependency? Why is it unhealthy? by [deleted]
No. Codependency is when one person relies on another for their needs, while the other neglects their own needs to support their partner, who does not reciprocate the support. A healthy couple gives and takes in turn, a codependent couple is one person leeching off another. Generally the supporting partner has low self esteem and derives their sense of self-worth from providing, but this becomes untenable as their own needs go unmet and they eventually burn out.
LorenzoStomp t1_je98h56 wrote
Reply to comment by Episemated_Torculus in ELI5: What is codependency? Why is it unhealthy? by [deleted]
It's "co"dependent because usually the one person relies entirely on the other for their needs and the other person relies on being needed for their sense of purpose. Person A can't handle their life responsibilities and Person B feels useless unless they are constantly proving their worth by doing for others (and usually neglecting themselves).
A child is naturally dependent, but if the mother makes mothering her whole identity and worth in life, now it's a codependancy (and there will likely be issues as the child naturally becomes more independent and the mother resists losing her sense of self).
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Reply to comment by drillgorg in This is my husband's favorite prank on me, and he wasn't even there to see it! by AlloyComics
We call mozzarella sticks cheesedicks. I have to watch myself when ordering.
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Reply to comment by SpinCharm in TIL that there's a breed of a domestic chicken tall up to 1.2 metres by ravennesejaguar
I don't see the banana
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Reply to comment by dicky_seamus_614 in TIL that there's a breed of a domestic chicken tall up to 1.2 metres by ravennesejaguar
Well, they'd still have chicken smarts. But if they bred fast you probably would keep your yard free of cover and not take your trash out unarmed.
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Reply to comment by CBH42 in LPT: Anytime that you are going to ask someone over to your place (either a date or a friend), always clean your place before asking. If they say yes, it’s already clean. If they say no, at least you can feel happy about a clean space. by Snow5Penguin
There are people on this website who don't know you need to scrub your legs, I think we'd have to dumb it way further down to get to "too basic to be useful" territory
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Reply to A good boy by Less-Arachnid2314
This is a dog who is hoping you don't tell him he has to get down
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Reply to comment by wanking_to_got in TIFU by forgetting to buy cat food (more of a YIFU actually) by Kichigai
LorenzoStomp t1_jaahyic wrote
My real dad is an eagle
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Reply to comment by Musikaravaa in TIL of Zazous, French youths in World War Two who dressed in "big or garish clothing", listened to Jazz and got into conflict with fascists by OliverOdysseus
The article says zoot suits came first but doesn't mention whether they influenced the zazous
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Reply to comment by Joe_Spiderman in LPT Request: How to keep a cleaner home by bschumm1
Yeah that's one I have trouble with. I try to clean as I go while cooking, but sometimes stuff is left over and I don't want to eat my dinner cold. So the dishes have to wait til later, which is sometimes the next day when I have time for them.
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Reply to comment by 2manyteacups in LPT Request: How to keep a cleaner home by bschumm1
Depends on whether I'm in a club where people wee on each other
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Reply to comment by Flappsy in I can't listen to music without checking the meaning of lyrics out of fear by Flappsy
Sure. Basically your issue is that you have formed some ways of thinking about lyrics that do not line up with reality and are causing you stress. Cognitive Behavior Therapy and other methods can help you to retrain how you think about lyrics and how your brain creates negative beliefs like this so that you can let go of the stress you are already causing yourself and prevent developing new damaging patterns.
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Reply to comment by calguy1955 in LPT: How to remove virtually all blindspots from the majority of autos. Most people “gun sight” their side mirrors which is only ok if you have convex (aka bubble) mirrors also, otherwise it leaves massive blind spots at your 4:00 and 8:00. Read on for instructions. by Sapphire580
This is a common issue in, for some reason, just the southwest quadrant of my local beltway. If you try to merge left, some one behind you and further left will see that your blinker is on and move to be in your way before you can complete the merge. Other areas have their own quirks but in that section everyone thinks it's Mad Max time, and using your blinker is giving information to the enemy.
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Reply to comment by McMacHack in TIL Poltergeist, which came out in 1982, was rated PG. This is despite not just the movie fitting perfectly into the horror genre, but also many adult themes including the smoking of marijuana and a deep dive into the occult. by duganaok
"Shit, where's my lighter? Don't blow those candles out yet, Timmy!"
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Reply to comment by dariamorgandorfferr in TIL scientists believe people started wearing clothes between 83k and 170k years ago because that's when clothing lice diverged from head lice. by cwood1973
I don't think it would even have to be for that long. Like what's a lice lifespan? A month? Everybody stays shaved for half a year just to be safe and make sure we've tracked down all the stragglers and we're done.
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Reply to LPT: Check in with your significant other’s if they seem to stop doing household chores by Smoky-Abyss
Its always a good idea to check in with your partner. After all, you are part of a team, they're not just some furniture that comes with the house (and what if your couch started doing something it didn't usually do? You'd definitely check on that, right?). But I wouldn't necessarily put "just" before "depressed". I'm sure you didn't mean it but it kinda comes off like, "Oh no, are you gonna leave me?! Oh, you're just depressed, no worries then. Just so long as my status quo's not affected." I've been in situations where my partner was refusing to get help for mental problems and the only way to push them towards getting help was for the relationship to end (they needed the change to motivate them and allow them to focus). I've also left relationships because I was depressed and not getting any support and being expected to continue my half of things with no help was dragging me down further. Sometimes both things happened at once. Either situation sucks for everyone involved but it was the right thing to happen.
LorenzoStomp t1_j80p4zp wrote
This just reminded me they still haven't found Julian Sands
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Reply to comment by MrGreenVape in Boy, 15, found with car belonging to one of three missing Michigan rappers by bananasareappealing
That's why you don't steal minivans
LorenzoStomp t1_j70qj9f wrote
Incredible footage of VIDEO UNAVAILABLE
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Reply to comment by 1dte in Crazy story.....please input your thoughts by 1dte
It's your call man. How you gonna move your stuff out?
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Reply to comment by 1dte in Crazy story.....please input your thoughts by 1dte
It means you can call the cops to help you get in your place instead of climbing in the window and risk talking to the cops anyway because your neighbor decided it was "suspicious activity"
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Reply to comment by 1dte in Crazy story.....please input your thoughts by 1dte
Well if he doesn't respond soon - like today - he may have a problem because that would be an illegal lockout
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Reply to comment by [deleted] in LPT: If you have a bump, lump, or weird spot... Get it checked now. If it does turn out to be something, you may not get treatment for longer than you expect due to backlogs (at least in Canada). by chemical09
How does it work with things like infections, infestations, etc? Like you have cellulitis or scabies, where you might be okay right now but it can kill you or spread to others if not treated quickly?