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BashfullyBi t1_jecveng wrote
Reply to comment by VocalAnus91 in He wanted to know if it was offered as a main course 😒 by Booshida
Vaggie medley.
BashfullyBi t1_j4wd785 wrote
Reply to TIL that only about 4% of the Earth's surface has two points on opposite sides of the world that are both on land by A_1337_Canadian
My whole country is underwater
BashfullyBi t1_j24vehy wrote
Reply to TIL that an unknown 19th century Japanese artist painted a parody of the sacred scene of the Buddha's death that is commonly called the "Penis Paranirvana", in which the dying Buddha is replaced by a giant anthropomorphic penis being mourned by women and other penises. by JosephvonEichendorff
I belly laughed when I saw the photo
BashfullyBi t1_iy8nmqr wrote
Reply to Just your normal dude playing an accordion with a unicorn mask in a public park by DarkMatterOne
Ask him about his relationship with his father.
BashfullyBi t1_it52kqz wrote
Holy shit. Hilarious to read, traumatizing to live through, I'm sure, but a good read.
BashfullyBi t1_jecx2tu wrote
Reply to LPT Request: Best way to tell my kids (ages 6, 6, 2) that a beloved uncle has died by jcujcu
"Your uncle died."
I asked a child psychologist about this when I experienced it with my kids, and she said that it's important to use the word "dead" or "died" with young children.
Telling a child something like "he's gone to sleep and won't wake up" can make them fearful of failing asleep and not waking up (either for themselves, or another loved one).
Likewise, something like "he's in the sky now." Is meaningless and confusing. Will he be back? Can I go too? Why not? Etc.
Also, don't say something like "he went to the hospital, and won't be coming back." for the same reason.
Basically, try not to give them a new fear, on top of everything else. Just use clear, unambiguous language. Answer any questions they might have, and talk about him.
Don't make him a taboo subject, or something to be discussed in hushed tones. Ask them how they feel about it often over the next week/month. Feelings change and we all process things at our own pace.
Remember that talking about it isn't going to make them feel worse. It can only make them feel better. They need to know you are a safe place for their emotions - big, small, "good" or "bad" (no such thing as a bad emotion!)