That's entirely possible. This really does require self-reflection and humility. It's important to be self-aware of your state of mind, and to think critically about why you might feel that way.

I certainly have. For me, if I'm being totally honest, I have a tendency towards depression. I've had a hard life and it's taken a toll. If I don't work at it, I can very easily fall into depression. So I've had to think long and hard about what makes me happy, what makes me unhappy, is my mood at the moment being impacted by internal or external forces.

There are times where my bad mood isn't about anyone else but me. There are also times when I can feel my inner reserves being sucked dry by the person in the room. You need to be willing to look at yours as a whole, which is definitely challenging for some people.

My advise would be this: You do not owe anyone a pass on unacceptable behavior merely because you happen to has some genetic connections. You do not have any obligations to them just because you are related.

However, all actions have consequences and belonging to a community will eventually most likely lead to you sacrificing and doing something that you wouldn't be your first choice of actions because you know that it will make the person you love happy.

How do you know when to say when? Think about A) your mental health and well-being and B) the possible long term consequences.

Let me give an example: I have a sibling who is not in my life. They were removed because I noticed that every single interaction with them made me feel upset, angry, sad, frustrated, and deeply unhappy. They literally added nothing positive to my experience. I was not wiser, no more compassionate, not more loving, not more insightful for knowing them. I could not think of one positive way in which either of us enriched the other's life. So I made the decision to cut ties. Best decision that I ever made. What are the possible consequences? I don't see them and talk to them but I have other people that I fulfill my need to socialize. They are very smart but I find my need for intellectual stimulation on my own. I'm given to believe that family is who you turn to in times of duress. What if I lose my job? Well I can take care of myself and quite honestly I'd rather go to a shelter before I ever asked this person for help. So honestly, there's no circumstance in which I can see myself ever regretting my decision to cut them out of my life. Five years on and every day I confirm that I e made the correct decision. I'm happier and have much more peace. As to their happiness with this situation? Well that's not my concern or problem. If they have any issues, that's for them to resolve and learn from.

Edit: I like to be a positive person so let's look at the other end - being part of a community. I have social anxiety. It sucks. It can be so hard for me to go do things in a group no matter how much I love the people in the group. I force myself to participate because I know that eventually I'll be lonely and if I want people to meet my needs when I'm down, that means doing my best to meet their needs when it's hard for me. So I go out occasionally and you know what? It's fun once I'm there. I have a nice time and then I go home.

I look at it like nurturing a garden. You invest the love and the time to build your garden (a community) and eventually your garden is something that many people enjoy and get returns from. But it's not always easy, and in the moment it can be hard to put your needs aside for the greater good and the long-term goal of building something greater than yourself.