GanacheWeak6896 t1_iwh7om6 wrote on November 15, 2022 at 4:53 PM

You sound under age, you are your parents responsibility. Understand this statement as a whole. If your parents truly do suck, then speak to grandma about emancipation or adoption.
Otherwise it just sounds like strick parents and a lack of communication. Again, if you are underage, it could just be that your attitude is not conducive to their strick expectations. Step back from the situation and ask yourself if these actions are in your best interest (you placing yourself in a parents shoes). Anyways, take a breath and look at the situation from a different angle.

troubled_stranger OP t1_iwh93z4 wrote on November 15, 2022 at 5:03 PM

I promise, ive tried to communicate with her a bunch of times. She only hears what she wants to hear, takes it out of preportion, and gets even more unreasonable. My word about it is seen as "talking back" even though thats not the case at all.

With the emancipation and adoption thing, my entire family is very strong on "even if she did wrong you, shes still your mom so you have to respect that" and "adoption is not a choice when you have a mother thats trying."

Ive tried everything i can in this household, my mother isnt strict shes just extremely unreasonable even in a calm enviroment.

GanacheWeak6896 t1_iwhbtqk wrote on November 15, 2022 at 5:21 PM

Ok so maybe try writing down your concerns. Try and keep them short and to the point. I feel.. I dream.. I hope.. I'm sorry.. this is a big one. If anything remorse may be felt by your mom. Even if you don't feel like apologizing, apologize for your outbursts and reactions. Make sure to highlight that your reactions caused by her actions placed you in a feeling of disgust, guilt and embarrassment for the discovery mentioned in your post.

Whatever you do, just remind yourself that there is no book on how to raise children and they are doing their best. I'm not there so I am hoping it is just a strick house as it sounds. Other from that, own your feelings and reach out to your mom in a way that provides distance or mediation, ie a letter while still at grandma's. Maybe even have her write with you or proof read it before sending to mom.