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izanamithekorn t1_ja6ujcx wrote

It seems to me that your main fuck up is threatening a relationship you are seemingly enjoying, based solely on the fact that he doesn't really agree with marriage.

If there are other things wrong then fair enough, but it seems like self sabotage on your part.

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Inebrium t1_ja7gutu wrote

it's not even marriage he doesn't agree with, its specifically a wedding.

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SirVanyel t1_ja7kp6f wrote

And for good reason. How many people go to marriages to either:

1: Drink on someone else's dime

2: to inflict their own beliefs onto the couple

Weddings aren't for the bride and groom, if they were, they wouldn't send the couple in debt.

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[deleted] OP t1_ja7ohuw wrote

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SirVanyel t1_ja7oz0c wrote

That's beautiful. Hopefully my girlfriend is down for something similar, I don't wanna deal with the other bs

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ZeroRozuMagika t1_ja7ptsz wrote

I think that’s beautiful. Backyard wedding are actually pretty common these days.

I’m not religious so if I ever get married, I think I’d want it to be in a beautiful outdoor location rather than a church.

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ZeroRozuMagika t1_ja7qe54 wrote

Traditionally, weddings are paid for at least in part by the couples families. Unfortunately not every family is able to pay.

I think weddings are definitely over priced and there’s still some societal pressure. However, people in the younger generations are definitely changing the way we do things.

Smaller weddings, non traditional weddings, and eloping are all becoming more and more common. I would never force or coerce a partner into a we’d ceremony they don’t want to participate in.

Personally, if someone came and was being a nuisance, I’d kick them out no problem.

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SirVanyel t1_ja7rcxc wrote

We poor as fuck my friend, the only thing worse than putting a 30 year old into debt is putting a 55 year old into debt haha

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