The_R1NG t1_j8udx8c wrote on February 17, 2023 at 12:33 AM

I understand you had an actual medical issue going on with the depression but your framing is very unfair. A loving partner can still be massively hurt or shattered by your actions and words. But I still think you may be dealing with depression, it doesn’t sound like you’re 100% okay with how you word and catastrophize things

I’m not excusing him because I don’t know him but maybe him being close and then distant is him battling his love for who he knows you are and his hurt/trauma from the woman you’ve been to him lately depression or not

North_Mongoose_4900 t1_j8ufa02 wrote on February 17, 2023 at 12:43 AM

I pretty much have been blaming myself for everything so I’ve not been adding his faults so much because I do blame myself (I think it’s part of the depression) even if he had cut me with a blade I’d think it was all my fault:/ I can’t help it

The_R1NG t1_j8ufe49 wrote on February 17, 2023 at 12:43 AM

Then you should separate, seek therapy if you’re not already and get healthy for you and your baby. Wish you the best .

North_Mongoose_4900 t1_j8uebe0 wrote on February 17, 2023 at 12:36 AM

My depression started because we agreed no visitors, he then had people over constantly when I was recovering, he would lie to me about dumb stuff, play video games up until 2am instead of help me with the baby, I was super alone, so I’d get upset and argue with him because I needed his help, he wouldn’t like it when my family would come over so again I was so isolated as a new mother, but I do understand where you’re coming from

The_R1NG t1_j8ueqpz wrote on February 17, 2023 at 12:39 AM

Assuming that’s all 100% true, unbiased and fair then that’s a different story

SimpleLeaf96396 t1_j8ucnvg wrote on February 17, 2023 at 12:24 AM

Maybe you're still suffering depression because it sounds like you're still overthinking (I know it's hard not to) but also maybe he's struggling with something similar. He had to pick up everything when you struggled, maybe that's affected him.

North_Mongoose_4900 t1_j8uekda wrote on February 17, 2023 at 12:37 AM

He didn’t pick anything up:( I’ve been picking all the pieces up, I’ve had no support from him at all just constantly being dangled on a string, one minute he wants me the next he doesn’t

SimpleLeaf96396 t1_j8ufcyc wrote on February 17, 2023 at 12:43 AM

So maybe you're not meant to be together. Reading your other comment any father who stays up till early hours playing games isn't responsible or helpful