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JoshALLENspitonmepls t1_j1k7w9q wrote

Reply to comment by ManInBlack829 in Texas coach Chris Beard's fiancee says he didn't strangle her. by PrincessBananas85

Male victim here. I lived through it for seven years. When I simply tried leaving the first time she called the police and said I had hit her. I was covered with bruises and cuts, both fresh and old. She didn’t have a mark on her. Didn’t stop the cop from getting in my face like he was going to beat the shit out of me.

Three weeks later I escaped for the second time. I was playing league of legends with my friends and was just happy to be out. I made it home to NY to my mom and grandma. A cop who’s a family friend to my ex’s mom (he wants to fuck her and has wanted to for 20 years) showed up and told me that I was suicidal and needed to be taken to a hospital immediately. I had no clue what the fuck he was talking about but my ex and her drunk of a mother used to use their moms “cop friend” as a threat and now he was right in front of me. I informed him that I wasn’t suicidal and that the only person that would’ve called that in was my abuser. Also I informed him that my family could attest that I was okay. Didn’t matter. He threatened me with arrest and wouldn’t let me shut my door. I was taken to Strong Memorial Hospital in Rochester NY. My trauma reaction to the situation is that I had been kidnapped.

I was given two options in life. Return to my abuser or have this police officer harassing my family and embarrassing us to our neighbors constantly.

If anyone wonders why women wait twenty years to report things… here ya go

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leviathynx t1_j1kd4xv wrote

Bro I really feel for you. I hope you were able to get out.

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JoshALLENspitonmepls t1_j1kdnk1 wrote

I am. But the damage was done, my cat was stolen, my car was abandoned in Ohio. And now I spend my days sick from C-PTSD, teeth rotting out of my skull, pacing back and forth for 2-16 hours a day. Honestly, I feel trapped again.

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AngelVirgo t1_j1kyz7l wrote

May I offer you some comfort?

First, I believe your story.

Second, my thoughts and prayers are with you.

Third, on a practical level, are you able to take up yoga, Pilates, or meditation where you are? If not please walk in the great outdoors instead of your room. Walking can be a good healing activity. Release your pain.

Fourth, I understand dental work is expensive in the US, but I also know there are free dental clinic run by charity. Fixing your teeth will be a start. Liberate with body, liberate your soul.

You got this.

Grandma

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JoshALLENspitonmepls t1_j1lb24y wrote

I’ll try my best. Can’t let my mom lose both her kids to suicide.

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AngelVirgo t1_j1lpa79 wrote

I lost two sons, one of them to suicide. Thank you for thinking of your mom. 🙏🏼

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Vozkol t1_j1kobsb wrote

File a lawsuit, there's solutions. Ruin the life of your ex and the cop who was harassing you. Be strong and don't take that shit from ANYONE

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NationalChamps2015 t1_j1l2xwy wrote

Why not just let the cop fuck your girl? Sounds like you could Solve both problems

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JoshALLENspitonmepls t1_j1lb7a8 wrote

Because he wants my ex’s mom not my ex. Dudes built like a flaccid penis anyway. Ex’s mom was nonstop involved in our issues because she drank daily and it made her feel like she wasn’t a shit mother. Problem is she never helped stop the abuse, she always took her daughters side or made things worse.

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