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Silent_Impressions t1_j2eynri wrote

I dont know a single guy, including myself, who is attracted to only one body type

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Silent_Impressions t1_j2f1qe5 wrote

What I'm saying is that I can be attracted to multiple body types. BBW, curvy, chubby, slim thicc, thicc, slim, fit, whatever else you want to use to describe body types don't matter. All that matter to me is if I look at you and find you attractive. I, like most guys, aren't limited by body type. There are preferences but that doesn't lock you to 1 body type.

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LeeLooPeePoo t1_j2f2nk4 wrote

I think it's absolutely wild that you are acting as if him being attracted to women who don't look like you = he isn't attracted to you (when he's been having sex with you for four months)!

I'm not trying to be mean, but to me it seems like you are feeling insecure and you're lashing out at him because of it.

He didn't cause your insecurity, he hasn't been dishonest, he hasn't taken advantage of you. Your emotions are valid BUT you are responsible for dealing with them and not acting as if he is at fault because you had an emotional reaction.

You're WAY out of line, you've been accusing him of bad motives and it seems like trying to manipulate him into feeling guilty/bad for every having been attracted to someone else. It's not good and you have NO reason to be upset with him, NONE.

This could be because you were hoping for something more than just sex to eventually develop and it hasn't. Was he upfront with you about only wanting no strings attached/FWB in the beginning?

If you agreed to FWB and hoped he would change his mind once he got to know you, then you should end this because it's not going to change, instead of acting like his attraction to other women/not being sexually attracted to you is why he won't commit.

You are worthy of love and acceptance exactly as you are. There are plenty of people who would be sexually attracted to you and some of them are seeking exclusive/commited relationships. Find one of them and while you search focus on becoming the best version of yourself so you're ready to be a healthy, secure, and supportive partner when you find them.

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Individual_Lemon_139 t1_j2f2dsg wrote

And if you can get that flavor anytime you want, it's kind of nice to have some variation from time to time.

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shrimpfajita t1_j2ezezz wrote

Why do you care? You wanna fuck, you’re doing just that, so what’s the issue?

Is he the pinnacle of desire to you, does he embody the man of your dreams?

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chunkydan t1_j2f1t7u wrote

People can have multiple types just because they like one a little better doesn’t mean much. Why are you so hung up on this? Are you a troll or just purposely ignoring everyone commenting?

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shrimpfajita t1_j2f2n0h wrote

Answer my question, is this guy your ideal person.. Because if he isn’t, are you also lying about being attracted to him?

You’re being weird. It’s so unnecessary

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vndin t1_j2f2axy wrote

That wasnt a lie... he IS attracted to you as a curvy woman. A person can be attracted to many things about a woman... he may not have a "type" as i dont myself. Ive dated many different women and all i thought were beautiful although if u had them stand in a line shoulder to shoulder youd be amazed at the variations. Bottom line is if he is attracted to you, which id assume he was bc u guys are together, then why does it bother u? Hes with u.... chose u. U may not be the same body type that he watches on porn (hell most people are not that body type) but he obviously has chose u.

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Jimi204 t1_j2eyug1 wrote

Speaking as a guy, I have more than one type. My wife is a perfect combination of all of them

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LengthinessFresh4897 t1_j2f08no wrote

Because he likes more than one thing it’s not that hard of a concept to understand nobody lied to you

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LengthinessFresh4897 t1_j2f1642 wrote

Based on your username I’m going to assume you like green apples so just because you like green apples does that mean you don’t like oranges? Just because somebody likes Katy perry are they not allowed to like Lizzo?

This concept of a “type” is so very annoying to me because it’s not black and white as people try and make it seem he is able to find both skinny gothic chicks and curvy women attractive at the same time he just simply like women

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jkelsey1 t1_j2f2av6 wrote

I mean If he's having sex with you then he's obviously sexually attracted to you??

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Jimi204 t1_j2f2zdn wrote

Why can’t a guy be attracted to more than one type of woman? It’s not hard to understand. He’s obviously attracted to you sexually. If he wasn’t, I don’t see how he’d even be able to perform. If you only have one type, that’s cool, but it’s not uncommon for both men and women to have more than one

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CardinalPuff-Skipper t1_j2f03hk wrote

Can’t men be complicated too? Sexy is sexy and men shouldn’t have to be confined to one type. He likes you. Just be glad you’re one of the types that make him happy.

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CardinalPuff-Skipper t1_j2f1ci1 wrote

Let me simplify this for you: Does he get an erection because of your presence? If the answer is yes, he’s attracted to you. Just leave at that my dear. You’re trying to make drama where there doesn’t need to be any…

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MissNikitaDevan t1_j2f0fuh wrote

Why are you assuming you arent his type, people can like different body types at the same time

He can like both you and the skinny goth girls

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FarPomegranate4658 t1_j2f2ibq wrote

My boyfriend hasn't liked women who have had 4 kids and are grandmother's till he met me. Doesn't stop an insane amount of attraction and him saying I'm the sexiest woman he's ever been with. Type isn't set in stone, maybe there is something about you that he finds incredibly attractive and he's just not experienced it before

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SSG_Vegeta t1_j2f13t4 wrote

This may sound harsh and it’s not intended to.

You’re not really viewing this right. He probably just has multiple types and likes you individually.

My partner isn’t my “type” by what you see me liking or whom I’ve dated before.

All that said, the way you’re acting, don’t be surprised if you’re no longer of interest to him.

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SSG_Vegeta t1_j2f27hx wrote

Clearly you’re copy and pasting and must be just spamming people. Find a better way to use your time.

You’re either lying and making this all up or you’re not willing to take advice that doesn’t match your opinion and shouldn’t be asking.

Either way, Happy New Year.

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volvocowgirl77 t1_j2f1jt9 wrote

Why are you copying and pasting the same fucking response. If you think he’s lying then don’t fuck him. Find someone else ffs

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Cautious_Salad_245 t1_j2f1a0k wrote

He’s liked some pages of skinny gothic women does not mean you are not his type, but I understand the concern you may have that he wants something you can’t give him

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leigh094 t1_j2f1iug wrote

He can’t be into both?

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sfak t1_j2f1zh1 wrote

This sounds a bit like insecurity. Men can like multiple body types. Women can like multiple body types. Does every man you fuck look exactly the same? Probably not. I don’t understand why you keep replying the exact same thing to everyone. Yes we understand what you’re saying. Your reasoning makes absolutely zero sense though. He likes skinny AND curvy women. Maybe he likes blondes AND brunettes. He might like tall AND short women and everything in between.

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tymacpherson t1_j2f1oo8 wrote

Most men(me included) don’t have just a single type we are attracted to. Sure I have a type but it isn’t singular. And I’ll also add you didn’t ask him if you where his type. You specifically asked him if he found curvy women sexually attractive. That’s completely different then asking what is his type of women.

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vndin t1_j2f1oyg wrote

First off my wife is a curvy large busted woman... i 110% love her and find her beautiful.... men look at "porn" of every type. I personally love gothic women, tattoos etc.... my wife is not like that at all... i also find oriental women beautiful but none of that would ever change the fact that i love and desire my wife....

Is there not a celebrity or musician that u find attractive that is opposite of your man? Its no different...

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pyschedelicpolly t1_j2f2h42 wrote

Because most men will fuck anything if given the opportunity.

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tickingkitty t1_j2f2pza wrote

Okay, I’m not a guy. But I can say that I have never actually dated “my type”. I have met guys who are physically my type, but then their personalities suck. What I’m saying is that there is more to attraction than body type. And people can be attracted to more than one body type. I think you are making problems where they don’t exist.

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ccl-now t1_j2f314y wrote

Unless you're planning on marrying this guy (and it doesn't sound like you are) why do you care what pictures your fuck-buddy looks at?

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Blackbeards-delights t1_j2f3dbi wrote

Who says you’re not his type. The whole idea of a “type” I think is bs. I think only women are like that. Men like everything. I’m dating a thick Latina now. Before her was a skinny soccer chick and before that was a tall girl. Abs a short girl before that. “Type” is archaic

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ElectricalDrama3558 t1_j2f3or2 wrote

Why do you assume he’s lying? My guy is definitely into curves but I’ve always been on the smaller size. Thankfully he’s more of an ass man but I am about as flat chested as they come and I know her prefers bigger breasts(I definitely do too so we check out girls together) He says I have a great ass but I definitely am not his normal “type”. Maybe being bi has changed how I view attraction through men’s eyes but I’m into so many shapes when it comes to women so I’ve always assumed men are too.

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