Submitted by Upbeat_Night_5615 t3_1284jp9 in relationship_advice
This is going to be long, so bare with me. My boyfriend, about a month ago, made a new friend. I got invited to a group hangout, and the entire time they were flirty with each other. I pointed this out afterwards, which started a fight. This kind of thing goes on for a week. After another group hangout, which a mutual friend attended, the mutual pointed out to him that the friend was very disrespectful of me and my position in his life. He admits I was right, and that it would be different. Flash forward, things are not different. I have to fight him almost every day to try and get him to quit talking/hanging out with the dude. Well this morning I found out that they have had raw sex twice this week (supposedly the only two times it happened). Specifically Tuesday night of this week and last night. Both nights he was supposedly hanging out with a sibling. I knew they had hung out last night, and I had this gut feeling they did it, but I ignored it. We talked about it, and he says he wants to stay with me, and I want to stay with him. I just don't know how to move forward in the healing process. I don't know how much time I'll need for the emotions to heal, or for us to be ready to be intimate again. I can't stop playing it in my head over and over. I just want to start on a journey where I can forgive him and I don't know how.
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