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snailsniffers t1_jaccoq6 wrote

His potential depression is an explanation but not an excuse.

He can see that you're suffering but is making the choice not to help you.

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o0Ambrosia0o t1_jacdz4m wrote

I think it might be that he doesn't see I'm suffering at all, and simply sees it as my job? I'm not sure anymore. :(

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snailsniffers t1_jacesmf wrote

Have a sit down with him, explain that the chores are not just your responsibility, that you're suffering. That you're literally sick right now and he should be stepping up.

Then you'll not be able to say he doesn't see it.

I am literally unemployed due to my mental health being so severe. I still support my SO where I am able to (with reasonable adjustments and understanding on worse days). His potential depression isn't an excuse.

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o0Ambrosia0o t1_jacezs8 wrote

Thank you so much for your suggestion, I'll definitely try this when I can.

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dj26458 t1_jacga0d wrote

It’s a decent excuse, or you’re taking a pretty narrow view of what depression is.

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snailsniffers t1_jacgo37 wrote

I'm literally unemployed due to the severity of my (bipolar) depression. I understand what it is.

Mental illness is an explanation, not an excuse.

Edit to add: if he is capable of working and playing video games, he is capable of helping at least a little bit. Him struggling and not being able to 100% complete tasks as usual is understandable. Completely neglecting OP and leaving her to do all the tasks when she literally cannot see? He isn't even apologising to her for it. Anyone with depression would feel shit that they're unable to help, and would say something about it.

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dj26458 t1_jacila1 wrote

Again, this is taking a narrow view of it. It comes in all forms, not just the one you’ve experienced.

Being judgmental doesn’t help anyway. The question is how to fix it.

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snailsniffers t1_jacis1g wrote

Allowing someone to treat you like shit by saying they're depressed doesn't help either.

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