floating3yeball t1_j4olftp wrote on January 17, 2023 at 4:07 AM

Reply to comment by MrSneaki in Starting an old school PVD dating newsletter by DontDriveKid

OP specified ‘good vibes’

MrSneaki t1_j4px0ap wrote on January 17, 2023 at 1:09 PM

Prejudice is such a great vibe, isn't it lmao

RUSSIANSPHERES t1_j4qf0rx wrote on January 17, 2023 at 3:26 PM

The OP clearly states it is for single people which would discount poly people. Good vibes doesn't include being pushy about your need to be on a email list for single people.

MrSneaki t1_j4qlsc3 wrote on January 17, 2023 at 4:10 PM

Check the other replies - my OC was intended as a lighthearted joke. If you read it again, perhaps more carefully this time, you'll notice that there's absolutely no semblance of being "pushy about [anyone's] need to be on a email list for single people." Reading comprehension is important, folks!

> Prejudice is such a great vibe, isn't it lmao

Aside, if you want to have a more nuanced discussion about what "being single" might entail, by all means feel free to drop me a line. For the sake of the other visitors, though, let's not do that here.

RUSSIANSPHERES t1_j4rl9kw wrote on January 17, 2023 at 7:49 PM

I am quite familiar. If it's a list for single people they are probably looking for other single people not people who are already partnered but allowed to see other people. Poly people in relationships are not single. You don't seem to understand this so this conversation is over. Single people are tired of having to filter through poly people.

MrSneaki t1_j4rny3q wrote on January 17, 2023 at 8:06 PM

You're still missing the part where I never insisted, nor even insinuated, that poly people need be included on this "list for single people." You also missed my call to action urging you to take this particular conversation offline.

If I do say so myself: it seems that, perhaps most importantly, you also need to relax lmao

RUSSIANSPHERES t1_j4so9y4 wrote on January 17, 2023 at 11:58 PM

Again, as I previously stated this conversation is over; seems you "missed the call". Just because you asked to be included on the email list, "what about ENM?" and requested an off-line conversation doesn't mean it's going to happen. I don't need an "offline" conversation as I previously stated I'm quite familiar with what you term the "nuances" of polyamory. Just because someone won't agree with you that those folks are single doesn't mean there needs to be a further conversation just more evidence of the pushiness of the community. I have a feeling you'll reply because you can't possibly not have the last word. Stop replying to me.

MrSneaki t1_j4v07ej wrote on January 18, 2023 at 1:25 PM

The only one pushing anything here is you, my friend, pushing your assumptions and prejudices onto my comments! I'm sorry if you've had your feelings hurt, or had bad experiences in the past, but try to step outside of your evident distaste for ENM folks for just a moment and actually view my comments objectively.

> ...you asked to be included on the email list, "what about ENM?"

I explained that this was intended as a jest, not a serious call to action. Neglecting that clarification is classic bad-faith discourse. In any case, you'd still be off base, even if we were to take that comment literally and disregard my clarification: "what about ENM?" and "ENM should be on this list" are very much not the same.

> I don't need an "offline" conversation as I previously stated I'm quite familiar with what you term the "nuances" of polyamory

Read that request again and you'll see the reason I asked was to spare this comments section the pains of any further dialogue on our part. You also assume too much about my intent in extending a dialogue - I never gave any indication that I was going to proselytize. For the record, I would have opened with questions about your definitions, and wanted to work towards a mutual understanding wherein you would know I wasn't pushing anything. It's clear now that you have little interest in hearing that, though.

> Just because someone won't agree with you that those folks are single doesn't mean there needs to be a further conversation just more evidence of the pushiness of the community.

In any case, you also obviously would have gone into any such dialogue with your own preconceived notions, since I never made any indication that this is how I feel. When did I ever assert that these folks are single? (Hint: it's never) When did I ever insist that there needed to be a further conversation? (Hint: it's never. I extended an offer to continue, I never insisted that we must) When did I ever push anything onto anyone? (Hint: it's never)

> as I previously stated this conversation is over

If you really feel that's the case, then by all means, let the thread die.