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mementoTeHominemEsse t1_iympsgn wrote

>Well selflessness and altruism come from a deep feeling of empathy

Not necessarily. Claiming all (or even most) selflessness and altruism stem from empathy is reductionsist.

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TheMightyBattleSquid t1_iymug4j wrote

You can't complain it's an assumption and then not provide even a single example as a counterpoint lol

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mementoTeHominemEsse t1_iymvd38 wrote

It's not my job to bring counter-examples when they haven't even tried to prove or argue for their point. But one example may be seeking validation, or thinking tbose traits are a moral virtue.

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Council-Member-13 t1_iymwj06 wrote

If it is seeking validation, then it isn't an example of selflessness.

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mementoTeHominemEsse t1_iymyq7k wrote

Selflessness in the perfect philosophical sense your conceptualizing it doesn't exist. Everything we do has a selfish motive.

Selflessness however in the sense the article is talking about and we talk about in day to day life is simply acting in a way that grants you no non-moral benefits. If someone gives a beggar money an upon being asked why claim they simply wanted to see the beggar smile, we will still call that selflessness. That's simply the way the word has been embedded in our language.

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Council-Member-13 t1_iyn1pvu wrote

Again, selflessness isn't seeking validation. They are contradictory. Unless you're ascribing to a very alien philosophy of psychology, you're going to get into trouble if you use validation seeking as an example of selflessness.

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mementoTeHominemEsse t1_iyn41yj wrote

Again, selflessness in the way you're conceptualizing it is not only not the selflessness the article or the common person talks about, it literally doesn't exist.

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MrVeazey t1_iymzztf wrote

I like helping people and being nice to others. I don't seek acknowledgement or praise because the action is enough. Is that selfish or selfless?  

I'm genuinely asking and not trying to be smug.

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draliene t1_iymvhrj wrote

Even if it wouldn’t stem from empathy, my point still stands. You do go through more amount of pain/suffering/labour being altruistic anyways. However I don’t see where else it could come from, I would love to hear other reasoning for that.

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mementoTeHominemEsse t1_iymxmd1 wrote

>You do go through more amount of pain/suffering/labour being altruistic anyways.

I'd argue that while in the long term this is true, in the short term it's often actually the easier choice, and chasing instant gratification is a sign of weakness. An example may be giving money to a beggar, even though you know it will likely go to waste. It's easier to give him the money than just walk past him. However, long term, we might know we need the money ourselves, and even if we didn't, giving it to charity would have been the better cause.

Alternatively, we might be seeking the approval of others. Or perhaps, because we lack actual power, we try place ourselves above others in an imaginary moral hierarchy by telling ourselves we're better people than them because we're more altruistic.

That isn't to say you should completely abandon altruism, or that all, or even most altruism stems from weakness, but we should at least be more aware of what is really driving us. Because altruism is praised by society, we often let our true motives for altruistic action unchecked.

Sorry for being such an edgelord btw, lol.

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draliene t1_iyn3lva wrote

But then it isn’t an act of altruism or selflessness anymore, is it? You are not BEING selfless, you are preforming it.

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mementoTeHominemEsse t1_iyn4j4o wrote

Selflessness in the perfect philosophical sense your conceptualizing it doesn't exist. Everything we do has a selfish motive.

Selflessness however in the sense the article is talking about and we
talk about in day to day life is simply acting in a way that grants you
no non-moral benefits. If someone gives a beggar money an upon being asked why claim they simply wanted to see the beggar smile, we will still call that selflessness. That's simply the way the word has been embedded in our language.

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le-bone t1_iymtvj8 wrote

Where could I dig into this? Genuinely interested

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