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HorrorJunkie123 t1_iz03i9q wrote

Wow... I think your son missed his dad and sister a little too much. I hope he gets the help he needs. But also, why are your husband and daughter buried in the back yard??

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whiskeygambler t1_iz0e0ql wrote

Surely they should be buried in a cemetery or cremated or something…not in the back garden…what the hell…

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KaraWolf t1_iz0mo3v wrote

Depends on how big your yard is. Postage stamp? Or something you could use the word acre on.

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Good-Tear2785 t1_iz0kw5i wrote

You act like its weird... its quite literally the same, except you dont pay yearly fees for a garden to weed wack your deceased familys stone with their name on it inside the bone dumping yard... graveyards are really glorified garage dumps so weird how people can be so emotional about a person and never want to lose that person but they quick to dump a body in the boneyard and forget it for a rainy day...

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NavezganeChrome t1_iz0x0hf wrote

Graveyards are explicitly dedicated to the dead, which is why they cost as much as they do. Burying people wherever one wants to has a nasty habit of others stumbling across the bodies at a later date, more often than not associated with foul play.

Especially so for something like a back yard, presuming the property will eventually be resold and someone else has to deal with corpses in the ground causing things unprecedented.

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RagicalUnicorn t1_iz1homk wrote

Explicitly dedicated 'currently'. You would be amazed at how many graveyards have been dug up and rezoned especially over the last couple hundred years with the burst of population and growth. Suddenly that out of the way shady grove filled with headstones is smack bang in the middle of a growing city and occupying space vitally required, just to home bones no one has visited in generations.

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tanoren t1_iz1wr8y wrote

Yeah there's a small historic cemetery in my home state of Ohio that sits right next to the entry of a major theme park.

Hell, in the same home state there's a lot of rural homes with family graveyards on property. One even right next to the road.

Happens all the time.

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iCoeur285 t1_j1gjdao wrote

One of my professors used a method called GPR to locate old coffins in the ground. He should us the results in class and it was super interesting. One of my coworkers actually just did a similar project.

This is also why I want to donate my body to a body farm. My coffin won’t be in the way somewhere people want to develop on, or my urn gets stored away in a random attic. Just let nature do it’s thing, and have some students study my decomposition.

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AngelForDemon t1_iz3shvz wrote

I find it extremely weird but it's because where I'm from it's illegal to bury people in the backyard or really anywhere that's not a cemetery

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Whedonsbitch t1_iz45lel wrote

If you already have an “active” family plot on land (more common in older more rural US states but still not common), you can sometimes still get permission to bury someone in that existing area, but it is illegal to just bury bodies yourself in your backyard anywhere you want (and bodies definitely would be buried deep enough that a kid would not be able to dig them up nightly to snack on)

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criticallycrafty t1_iz4bvgs wrote

People pay yearly fees for cemeteries? My family just has expensive ass plots and that’s where the cost ended.

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MisterDutch93 t1_izc3rgc wrote

This confused me as well. I’ve buried both my grandparents in the last 10 years and the only thing we had to pay for was the spot at the cemetery and the headstone. There are no fees to keep them in the ground.

Where I live there are no permanent graves anyway. They get dug up after 25-30 years to allow room for future deceased. The remains (if there are any) then get cremated and you’re allowed to take them. I think it’s a good system because most people tend to forget about graves, especially when the generations tending to them die off.

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criticallycrafty t1_izc4qen wrote

Oh wow! I’m glad they don’t do that here. My grandpa has been dead since 1991 and my aunt since 1984 and I visit their graves all the time. Lol. I’d be hysterically upset. I was born in 1988.

A lot of my family is buried in the same cemetery because they bought plots a LONG time ago. My grandparents were born in 1917 and 1919 and their siblings were obviously born around then too. They bought a bunch of plots and split them up. And we’re cramming people in them now. 🤣 The plots are like 100x more expensive than when my grandparents bought them and they let you put one body and one set of ashes in a grave or 3 sets of ashes in the grave. My aunt was cremated and my grandparents were not. I don’t like the idea of dying so I didn’t want to make a decision but I will be dead and it’s more important I have plans for whoever has to deal with it after because my dad didn’t have any plans and that was 20 year old ME. I was not equipped for that. He got a free plot at another cemetery (parents divorced) because he was a veteran. So I am being cremated and me, my mom, and my aunt’s widower plan to be cremated and buried in the plots. Tough to think of but I know, realistically, it will not matter to me because I’ll be dead.

My grandma died in 2010 and she was my last living grandparent. None of those graves have required more money to upkeep. Which is good because I’m poor. 😂

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berekin556 t1_iz4zczq wrote

I'm sorry but it is incredibly weird to bury people in the backyard.

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Calandril t1_iz5c1rf wrote

Why? Rick did it (also, it was pretty common for most of history.. only rare in cities and now days)

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criticallycrafty t1_izjo310 wrote

I mean. To each their own, but it’s illegal to bury a body in your yard where I live. I assumed it was illegal in a lot of places.

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zombieofcoffee t1_iz2yafh wrote

Family cemetery plots in grand houses have been around for years. It's not unheard of.

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VirgilTheyCallMe t1_iz0jwwz wrote

well some people can’t really afford a grave in a graveyard or something and because of that bury them in the backyard.

My Aunt did that when my grandma died, because we just couldn’t afford a cementery

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Emotional-Sentence40 t1_iz19rwk wrote

Lots of properties where I am have small family plots on the land. I would love to eventually open a natural cemetery one day.

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AngelForDemon t1_iz3sz33 wrote

I'm having a huge culture shock at the moment. So it's actually a legal option to bury someone in your backyard there? Where I'm from it's very much illegal so I'm very confused about the idea of burying a human in the backyard.

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the-wizard-cat t1_iz5hyqz wrote

In a lot of the us you can do that, you obviously have to get permits or at least tell authorities the person died

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Morkamino_Bones t1_iz7s1ri wrote

And why in such a shallow grave that a one armed kid could dig them up.

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