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Salt-Tangelo-9152 t1_j1xqcdl wrote

Reply to comment by Anxious-Marsupial89 in Kids realize what you did for them and appreciate it once they have kids of their own. Spouses or SOs don’t realize or appreciate it until you’re gone. by Yourfaceis-23

Ya. For me it was more of a mix. I wasn’t perfect but holy shit my parents we’re insane. Like why did I have lice so bad my hands were covered in blood when I scratched yet we were so rich we had a maids?

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JohhnyTheKid t1_j1ygwhn wrote

Also the constant emotional (and sometimes physical) abuse was really fucked up. Like how do parents think that assaulting their child is preferable over simply sitting them down and explaining the situation to them and what they did wrong? Kids are humans, they understand reason.

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rmslashusr t1_j206wzt wrote

Assaulting a child is obviously wrong, and it doesn’t work. You also can’t just “reason” a two year old out of a tantrum. They do not understand reason yet, and even if they could calmly reasoning with a fully grown adult doesn’t usually break through a tantrum either. You have to acknowledge their feelings and make them feel heard first and then there’s a variety of ways to move on from there depending what the cause is. But if you think you’re just going to reason people out of misbehaving whether their children or coworkers good luck being disappointed haha.

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Beyond-Time t1_j1zjsna wrote

It's clear you don't have children. I don't condone hitting as a means of discipline as there are more effective ways of getting your point across. If you think all kids can just be told, or understand reason, you are way off the mark. Rude awakening when/if you do end up having kids.

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Lovely_Tuna t1_j1zt0jh wrote

That's an absolutely fucked thing to say to someone who was beaten as a kid.

And I strongly disagree with your suggestion that hitting a child is a less-effective form of discipline. Beating a child does not get your point across at all, unless your point is that you are an abusive person, not safe to be around.

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Beyond-Time t1_j1zto1f wrote

Maybe you should re-read what I wrote as I literally say that hitting a child is wrong. You are what's wrong with Reddit.

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Lovely_Tuna t1_j20grra wrote

That is literally a lie, your post is still up.

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Beyond-Time t1_j20haig wrote

"I don't condone hitting as a means of discipline as there are better ways to get your point across"

Who are you trying to fool? Hitting is not an answer to unruly children, and they don't always listen to reason. Why are you acting blind to my post?

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Lovely_Tuna t1_j20m3v7 wrote

'Literally' has a specific meaning.

I felt like I was standing up for the other poster, and calling out the implicit abuse in your message. No fooling, no acting.

And I'll say it again, hitting your child WILL NOT 'get your point across.'

Hope your kid(s) eventually find a good therapist.

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