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Fun_in_Space t1_j91ip62 wrote

Reply to comment by Smooth-Mulberry4715 in [Text] How do you fix your life in your 30s after wasting about 8 years unemployed and living with family by sleeplessbearr

None of the health care providers I've seen (doctors, therapists, and shrinks) had a clue how to diagnose ADHD. I don't have any options until I get a job, but I was hoping someone could tell me what to look for. Is there a word for a provider that specializes in it?

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Smooth-Mulberry4715 t1_j92ppou wrote

Tell your doctor you think you have ADHD and want to be evaluated for it by a specialist (eg psychiatrist). You have to advocate for yourself in healthcare. You can also search your insurance portal (all insurance companies have this) for ADHD - or call them directly to see how to achieve this. Part of coping with ADHD is figuring out how to get things done - no matter the route. Bug your doctor, bug your insurance company, be annoying - everyone with ADHD has that capacity, LOL!

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Fun_in_Space t1_j93y0ln wrote

I've been to a couple of psychiatrists. They let me talk for 10 minutes, gave me a script, and showed me the door.

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Smooth-Mulberry4715 t1_j94vsem wrote

That sounds like a psychiatrist. And they probably just did it for depression. You have to tell your healthcare providers (including psychiatrists) what you need - “evaluate me for ADHD”. The hallmark of adult ADHD is career switching, and unable to focus on stuff you don’t like - which you exhibit. You can also find a therapist to refer or behavior mod - again insurance company portals by specialty is how that’s done. Also, your general doctor can align you with either of these. I can’t do it for you, dude - you have to make this first step.

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Fun_in_Space t1_j95jod0 wrote

I'll try, if I ever get a job with health insurance.

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Smooth-Mulberry4715 t1_j979vv7 wrote

If you have no job, no insurance, no money - get social services. It’s what it’s there for. Call the Medicaid office, they’ll orient you.

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Fun_in_Space t1_j97xjzx wrote

I have money from an inheritance that I am living on while I look for another job, so I don't qualify for any assistance. I really thought I would have found another job by now.

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Smooth-Mulberry4715 t1_j99jyqm wrote

Then use your inheritance to pay for health insurance - it’s not that expensive. I’m starting to wonder if you really want to get motivated or just want to bitch about your unwillingness to function (or as I used to tell my mother, “I can’t want to”).

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Fun_in_Space t1_j99v31p wrote

Health insurance isn't very expensive? What alternate universe do you live in?

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Smooth-Mulberry4715 t1_j9bdiit wrote

One that values quality of life over discretionary spending. You have an inheritance to live on but not a couple hundred bucks for insurance? You can’t figure out how to find a therapist or a psychiatrist that specializes in ADHD? You can’t reach out to social services to ask for mental health resources in your area? Are you five..?

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Fun_in_Space t1_j9ccehl wrote

It's more than "a couple hundred bucks" per MONTH for health insurance. Try $456.00 per month. You are guessing that I have much more money than I do. I AM TRYING to find a job I can live on, without success.

NO, I can't figure out how to find a therapist that specializes in ADHD. I tried. I had to choose from among a short list of in-network providers and none of them did. I don't quality for social services.

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