Otrada t1_j57ykvy wrote on January 21, 2023 at 1:00 AM

I've actually found that discussing plans of things I want to do with friends and family can be a big support. They often come with helpful tips or good insights to look into that I hadn't considered yet.

You shouldn't shut yourself off from those around you just so you can impress them.

Socal_ftw t1_j58ogpf wrote on January 21, 2023 at 4:32 AM

I agree because it makes you accountable to others and that it in itself is a motivator

JohnArce t1_j59cexd wrote on January 21, 2023 at 9:14 AM

As someone who rather not boasts, I was advised to share my plans with friends, to get motivated by the encouragement. As well as the accountability.
On the other hand, it is easy to fall into a pattern of just telling people about awesome plans, and collect on that initial praise without having to follow through.

Sometimes I want the motivational energy, sometimes I don't want the pressure.

As with many things in life, it's not about blindly following the one line on the motivional poster, all the time, everytime, and considering the opposite 'the wrong thing'.

Otrada t1_j59e9ss wrote on January 21, 2023 at 9:40 AM

Yeah, it's important to not just flap out any plan your brain cooks up in the moment. I usually only share plans after I've had a little time to think it through. If nothing else it's just because if you've got nothing to say about it yet then that just makes for an embarrassing conversation.

And ofc there's a big difference between sharing an interest you have and boasting about what great things you will allegedly be doing.

SmitefulAres t1_j58h0gw wrote on January 21, 2023 at 3:27 AM

This. Be confident in yourself and your ability to stick to your word. How else will people trust your word if you don’t exercise it?

palebluedot1988 t1_j595k59 wrote on January 21, 2023 at 7:42 AM

A lot of people discuss their plans with the aim of impressing people as well. It's a hell of a lot easier to talk about doing something compared to actually doing it. I respect the latter more.

JollySky314 t1_j5h70et wrote on January 22, 2023 at 11:52 PM

I agree with you. Some people have useful insight and tips, however, in the past, I was choked with obligational feelings once I got someone’s so-called ‘help’. I couldn’t say “It didn’t work”, especially to someone who really believed they were helpful.

But one day I found, I didn’t need to worry about offending someone even when something awkward happened because if the person really wanted to help me, the one didn’t get bothered even if I gave them honest feedback. When some people got angry and left me, I was sad, but I was lucky because I couldn’t live to please those people forever.

Anyway, I think it’s good to have a third person’s opinion when we want to achieve something as best as possible, for the point of view is usually limited.

oddntt t1_j59kel7 wrote on January 21, 2023 at 11:04 AM

I think this advice is more for those who get caught up in the weeds. I have an insanely hard time talking about my accolades, so in order to ever apply for something new I have to just do it without getting stuck on piling all my awards or making sure my CV represents every little thing I've done. I use to do that and I was societally paralyzed for almost a decade.