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TotallynottheCCP t1_j1gccz4 wrote

In basic training my drill sergeant used to get frustrated with me because I wasn't "using my potential ". then 12 years later, my supervisor is telling other people (in my presence too) that I "don't sell myself well".

I wish I had the ability to see what others see in me. I've been so trained to believe certain things or accomplishments are "out of my league", it's really fucking hard to imagine that I can actually do more than I believe I can. I'm not honestly sure if I'll ever realize it or just continue to live within my mental boundaries.

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Liquidmilk1 t1_j1h5vxt wrote

So i recently started a job after being worn down by uni for years - completely messed with my perception of my own skills despite scoring among the top grades that year.

I figured the job was a fresh start, and that I'd go into it by just faking confidence and comfortability with my role from the start. Internally i was constantly belittling myself, but people only noticed a confident person not being afraid of taking on new tasks - and it WORKED. Coworkers keep praising me for stepping up and trying. 2 months later my mindset is changing to focus on maximizing successes instead of minimizing mistakes. Any mistake is just a learning opportunity to perform better next time.

It's super cheesy, but faking it can change your mindset really fast.

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mizukata t1_j1h6mbg wrote

My father crushed my self esteem so many times it's hard for me to believe I am good. Yes, i understand what the post means. As I grew older I started believing in me more but when its your own parents that dont believe in you its soul crushing.

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onesexz t1_j1gz436 wrote

Dude, same. My DI smoked the shit out of me on a daily basis because he was convinced I wasn’t reaching my potential lol. I guess nothing has changed since then.

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TotallynottheCCP t1_j1iwahh wrote

Nobody's gonna be able to fulfill their potential until they believe it exists. Unfortunately 8 weeks of some dude shorter and younger than me yelling at me to overcome the years of wearing down that was my first 25 years of life.

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sevnm12 t1_j1iu9ez wrote

Theres a book called the growth mindset by carol Dweck. I recently read it and realized that I had a lot of boundaries I set for myself that were completely fictional. It helped me see things differently, that I don't have to be this way forever. I recommend taking a look!

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