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TriStateGirl t1_jdxtrhe wrote

Milford.

There's a metro north station right there in downtown. Plenty of restaurants for you and your wife to try as well. If you have kids the school system is good. There's beaches too.

I usually take the train from Bridgeport for 75 to 95 minutes depending on if it's a weekday or the weekend, so my guess is that Milford is 1 hr, 45 minutes. It can't be more than 2 hours, since that's the distance from New Haven.

I googled the drive to West Hartford. It says 57 minutes, but I would say 90 minutes realistically. No more than 2 hours if traffic was awful. I went to college close to West Hartford over in New Britain, and sometimes drop off day had traffic, but it never took us more than 1 hr and 45 minutes from Trumbull.

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timmahfast t1_jdxyerz wrote

I will point out OP needs to be in NYC three days while they're wife needs to be in West Hartford five days. So I would make more sense to live closer to West Hartford. Especially since OP can do productive work on the train.

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AnimeCiety t1_jdy81tf wrote

Depending on how much OP is getting paid, it may be worth it just to get a hotel Monday and Tuesday night if he can do three days in a row in NYC. Especially if it’s a high burn job that doesn’t end until 6/7pm.

Eventually see if either wife can move to a job closer to southern CT or NYC metro area. Or push his office days to just one day a week.

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Jkay064 t1_jdyx60i wrote

You’re suggesting $1000 per week in hotel bills.

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AnimeCiety t1_jdyyvrf wrote

OP would be staying two nights a week, on non-weekend nights, and would have flexibility in the type of hotel he can pick. OP can find places for under $250 a night in Manhattan and cheaper if he’s willing to travel to Li city, Brooklyn or Queens.

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Jkay064 t1_jdz1kod wrote

I have already had to go through this, myself. Sleeping outside of Manhattan negates the up side of not going home and sleeping in the city. Also a business man does not have a wide breadth of choices for overnight stays. He’s not a 20-something who’s willing to share a toilet with multiple guests. I literally was paying $500 a night, 8 months ago, for a good hotel near to my building.

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AnimeCiety t1_jdz2ivn wrote

No corporate hotel chain (Marriot, Hilton, Hyatt) has you sharing a toilet with others. All of these hotels have locations in Manhattan either midtown or FiDi that are around $250 for April 3-5th. If OP’s company is quite large, it’s possible they also have a corporate discount to use. There are at least 20+ choices between the big three chains and other places like Yotel or The New Yorker.

If you’re paying $500 a night, you’re paying for luxury. Maybe OP can afford luxury with his NYC salary but he only needs about $500 weekly.

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onecouldsaythat t1_jdy7fte wrote

Yeah - plus Hartford traffic is notoriously terrible. I’d advise against more than a 45m daily commute to Hartford given the likelihood of accidents and serious traffic jams that can add a ton of time to the commute. Not to mention when there’s the slightest bit of snow falling!

The NYC commute is certainly no cake walk, but Metro North is pretty reliable and consistent, and time on the train can be used to catch up on work or just relax. That’ll help OP because unfortunately, on their travel days, they wouldn’t have much other free time no matter how you slice it - though it would be somewhat balanced out with 2 wfh days.

I say this assuming both jobs are roughly equivalent in terms of either merit, salary, growth potential in the respective field, etc.

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TriStateGirl t1_jdxyyyt wrote

What town would you recommend? Milford like me? Danbury like someone else said? Somewhere else?

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timmahfast t1_jdy02il wrote

Probably somewhere between New Haven and Hartford. It's two hours from New Haven to NYC. Less than an hour to West Hartford anywhere in between. Really depends on what the budget is.

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