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slvstrChung t1_jeezbni wrote

So just dump him. You already know the truth about him.

But you also now know the truth about yourself, which is that you're not ready to be in a healthy relationship. A healthy relationship requires trust. What would have happened if he had declined to hook up? You show up at the date, all adoring and happy, "Oh honey, you passed the test, I can't wait to spend the rest of my life with you!," and he responds, "...Wait. That was a test? You don't trust me?" And he dumps you on the spot.

You're allowed to have trauma from your previous relationships. But bringing it into your next one is a recipe for trouble. You need to overcome it first.

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Outside-Ad-1677 t1_jef43ao wrote

God this is childish. Just break up. He clearly would cheat and this has broken your trust but just to clarify if you’re at the point where you’ve rationalized setting your SO up? It’s time to leave.

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Puzzleheaded_Ad_1634 t1_jef9j9e wrote

Agree with this. It's been a month! OP with respect you are way too grown to be playing these games.

If you need to catfish people.. you might not be ready for a relationship and should maybe work on yourself and heal.

And at the end of the day the dude wanted to cheat so just move on. You don't owe him a big "ah ha! I caught you" because that's gonna make you look...insecure and crazy.

Just dump the dude and tell him he isn't for you. Which he's not. You deserve better but u also deserve to feel abit more secure about yourself and dating. A few weeks of seeing someone is way too short to be getting serious.

Next time maybe get to know someone's character better before jumping head first into sleeping together and dating. That way you don't waste your time and have more reassurance the dude actually wants to get to know you for you not just to hook up.

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Creative_Recover t1_jef1jb7 wrote

You trying to bait him wasn't good but his transgression is much larger. Just be straight with him and end things, its obvious that he was going to hook up with the fake profile person you created.

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Indecks9999 t1_jef4jb4 wrote

I think your need to test him in the first place says you were not ready for a serous relationship.

If he has said no the the test, but found out it was you later?

Not a great way to grow a healthy relationship

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yowen2000 t1_jeeyd56 wrote

Did you have a reason, besides your past, to catfish your own boyfriend?

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[deleted] OP t1_jeeyj2i wrote

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yowen2000 t1_jefjgkf wrote

I see, you've learned two things:

  • You aren't ready for relationships, you manipulated your boyfriend into agreeing to cheat on you. That's a huge betrayal of trust, no matter the result, this foundation is not a good path forward for the two of you.
  • Your boyfriend is willing to cheat on you, you'll never unknow that, so it's probably time to break up with him.
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Murky_Anxiety4884 t1_jef325n wrote

Just dump him. Or, keep him if you like toxic relationships. As toxic relationships go, this one has some real potential.

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Puzzleheaded_Ad_1634 t1_jef9pgd wrote

It's a whole parade of 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 you are right!

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Murky_Anxiety4884 t1_jefd8uw wrote

Note how the comments divide. A simple breakup would completely solve OP's problem. But some people simply can't resist the urge to confront.

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Puzzleheaded_Ad_1634 t1_jefe0t3 wrote

I stated in my own. She has no reason to do tht it will only make her look a bit unhinged to him. She should just walk away and keep her dignity. This man is an AH. She dodged a bullet.

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WinterFront1431 t1_jef6q2t wrote

Wait till 4pm and then send him the screenshots and then block him.

Say.

I wonder how many times you have done that behind my back?? You are disgusting, no amount of excuses will fix this don't contact me anymore you have well and truly fucked it.

Then block him and get tested

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phillupontakos t1_jefcrvu wrote

im tryng to DM you, but for some reason its not working.

maybe you can help me with an issue im having. Is there any way at all (even an app) to see who views your IG account? I know we can see who views story... but ppl that look up your account.

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