Submitted by Due_Avocado_788 t3_yeduuv in Showerthoughts
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Due_Avocado_788 OP t1_itxjw2r wrote
No because once they do something more than stalk then it's worse for everyone
Crott117 t1_itxk9pq wrote
Seems like maybe it’s best for everyone if they are caught before they do something more than stalking.
seemypinky t1_itxta60 wrote
I think he’s saying it’s almost like a tree falling in the woods. If you have a stalker that just continually stalks, but never even enters your consciousness (it definitely is creepy because the stalker knows while you don’t), but you, the object of the stalking are left blissfully oblivious
Due_Avocado_788 OP t1_ityw5kx wrote
Lol thank you for literally being the only person that understands this
Invonnative t1_ity23rc wrote
More like “if” they do something, though that is perhaps a pretty likely if in the case of stalkers.
Due_Avocado_788 OP t1_itxkibb wrote
Idk if English is your second language but your "Than" should be "Then". I don't normally correct people like this but it seems like you were attempting to use it correctly and may want to know.
Then is for an event, like leading into something Then something else.
If you planned to use "than" comparatively, it should always be around the middle of the sentence and after a word like "rather" or "better" ... i.e.
Them getting caught is better than if they weren't
Mythirdeye8 t1_itxyfj4 wrote
This comes off as a very lengthy, condescending, unnecessary, passive aggressive remark.
Due_Avocado_788 OP t1_itywhex wrote
I checked to make sure in his post history that he posted in another language as well before commenting. It's unfortunate he got offended, but usually people want to know if they're messing up in their second language, especially English.
You can even tell he didn't know which "than" I was talking about in his next reply, until sometime explained it to him. Both times played off as "I'm tired" ... it's okay, he didn't like it, that's fine
Rayun25 t1_ity7urw wrote
It came off as informative too me
Mythirdeye8 t1_ity81v2 wrote
Btw, it’s to* …not “too”
Rayun25 t1_ity9qvv wrote
Lol thanks. Saying btw seemed more condescending than the other other commenters paragraphs stating that he was trying to be informative and not rude.
Mythirdeye8 t1_ity7ym1 wrote
Yes, that is the power of condescension
RazvanRFM t1_itxoavu wrote
Thank you for taking the time to explain! I actually know how to use both of these terms, it's just that I am actually very tired and didn't notice misusing the second one. Even after you pointed it out, I still didn't notice the second "than" and tried to explain how my first one is correct. I am not sure if it was autocorrect or I misspelled it manually without thinking. I apologize, and thank you once again for pointing it out!
Also, as another side note, I believe that using a comma after the word "but" would be more grammatically correct, as there you begin another sentence. Hope this helps!
Will go to sleep now! Good knight!
Due_Avocado_788 OP t1_ityw9bc wrote
While you're right the general rule is that commas should be where pauses are, it's not always the case :)
Sorry to upset you, I saw you posting in a Spanish speaking country so thought you'd want to know. Clearly not :)
RazvanRFM t1_ityxcx1 wrote
Well, that's what I remembered from the english classes at school. I went to local english competitions and always scored among the top 3 (except one time in which for some reason I scored incredibly low) .
Also, I am not a spanish speaker, you might have confused romanian with it.
And you didn't really upset me in any way. I saw this as an exchange of opinions and knowledge. Nothing to get upset about.
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UnadvertisedAndroid t1_itxmtpo wrote
In your comment the first instance of 'than' is correct usage, the second instance of it seems like a simple typo ('then' would have been correct).
RazvanRFM t1_itxn041 wrote
Oh, that's right! I am very tired and I didn't notice. I am very sorry! It's 4 am here and I am still awake.
UnadvertisedAndroid t1_itxnw97 wrote
No worries, it was weird that OP called it out in the first place when it was clearly a simple typo.
Due_Avocado_788 OP t1_ityw3th wrote
Not a typo, dude is from Madrid and used it wrong. You can tell he wanted to use it comparatively. Oh well don't care
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GrandNibbles t1_itxnjzc wrote
are you a stalker by any chance? no one believes this. stalkers should be caught and discouraged in every way from predatory behavior
Invonnative t1_ity2d48 wrote
Eh I kinda believe this, for the same reason I don’t ask my partner who they think of when they masturbate. There are some questions you don’t want the answer to, and if there’s no harm then there’s no foul in my book. Watcher may have been a better term here, though, for connotation sake
GrandNibbles t1_ityxxic wrote
"stalker" is inherently non-consensual watching with some kind of personal investment. it's an invasion of privacy at best, but can become worse if unchecked
Due_Avocado_788 OP t1_itywqjj wrote
You guys aren't getting it lmao. Once they engage in predatory behavior they've been seen/ caught. Not caught as in arrested, caught as in found out
fuknredditz t1_itxqp1t wrote
You know the only difference between a stalker and a rapist is commitment.
Due_Avocado_788 OP t1_itywnyf wrote
And being seen
taod_game t1_iu1wvrk wrote
I mean...if you use a blind fold...(this is a joke, gotcha?)
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taod_game t1_iu1xgq6 wrote
Only exception is if you have instinct. Allways felling that someone is watching you, but you don't have any proffs... Man i'd go CRAZY!
Due_Avocado_788 OP t1_iu2bm2f wrote
Yeah I'd agree with that. You look out and see a little curtain in the distance shutter... that'd drive me crazy too lol
RazvanRFM t1_itxi9z4 wrote
Unless the stalker has plans to do something more than just stalk. Than it would have been better if it were caught/seen.