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DEFINITELY_NOT_PETE t1_j9ipetm wrote

My wife casually said once when I said something wasn’t my finest performance that “by definition, you can only have one finest performance, so don’t beat yourself up for trying.”

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The_River_Is_Still t1_j9kx4ig wrote

Marry her.

Edit: I’m stupid and read quick as gf.

So divorce her, then remarry her, apparently.

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[deleted] t1_j9kjk3y wrote

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DEFINITELY_NOT_PETE t1_j9kmdvg wrote

Uh this wasn’t about sex, this was about an interview lol

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Fancy_Female t1_j9kw7nd wrote

I'm not saying your thing is about sex. And OP wasn't saying his thing was about a conversation between you and your wife about a performance.

The topic is about a concept broader than specifically the Wright Brothers too. Sex is only as irrelevant as the wright brothers, or your non-sex-related performance. This topic encompasses it all, and doesn't prevent us from talking about specifically the Wright Brothers.

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Fancy_Female t1_j9kwplh wrote

Someone can't take a joke. Want a Kleenex, dear?

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scottydc91 t1_j9kzksh wrote

Jokes don't take 5 paragraphs to try to convey.

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Fancy_Female t1_j9kzx9r wrote

You're partially right in that sometimes jokes can be much shorter

For example, Your mom made a joke with just one word - your name

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scottydc91 t1_j9l1r3e wrote

You roast like a Tumblr addict from 2012, please touch grass like others have already told you.

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Fancy_Female t1_j9l27ax wrote

Seems I've touched a nerve 😏

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scottydc91 t1_j9l2e3i wrote

I don't think you understand how internet comments work Lmao. Oh well bait is bait

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scottydc91 t1_j9kzg7k wrote

Are you okay this wasn't about sex whatsoever.

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Fancy_Female t1_j9kzm6g wrote

This is irrelevant. This wasn't about whether or not I'm okay.

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theblondepenguin t1_j9jns3a wrote

My husband gets paralyzed by the idea that there is better out there. He won’t read a book because he isn’t sure that it is the most important knowledge. He won’t write because someone else could say it better.

I told him the other day that the most important knowledge is the one you absorb; by waiting for the best you are shutting yourself off from a wealth of information.

And who cares if someone can say it better, that doesn’t detract from what you have said maybe your iteration will help someone understand the “better” ones more completely maybe not, there being someone else who said it doesn’t detract from your voice

I haven’t convinced him so I will 100% be using this to enhance my conversation, because they said it better and that doesn’t detract from my voice it enhances it.

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itadakimasu_ t1_j9kf7hi wrote

This is true for everything. I can't clean my house because omg there's a lot of house to clean and everything needs doing and how can I do it all so I get paralysed and don't do anything. But if I aim to clean the bathroom then yeah the house is still a mess but at least the bathroom is clean, and maybe tomorrow I'll vacuum or something.

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Cross33 t1_j9l4jzv wrote

You're right, but i also see where it comes for. Our whole education and society is very harsh towards mistakes. They aren't treated as learning opportunities they are treated as fuck ups and failures. So i can see how that would develop a fear of doing things imperfectly.

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xylotism t1_j9lez4r wrote

I'm a lot like him, I think. At a certain point I realized that 99% of anyone's potential (including my own) is already gone by the time you're an adult.

A lot of people are multi-talented but how many of us can really be a fighter pilot and a film director and a musician and a chef and know 5 different languages at the same time? And how many less can be the best at any given one of those? Each one is going to take at least some portion of your life to learn let alone master. Can you fit in 50 masteries? 20? Or even just 1? There's always more time to see France, but oh, you have to make sure to fit in India and the Bahamas and Japan and Iceland!

There's too much to do, and every minute you're not doing it is costing you potential. I think once you have that mindset of "time is finite but so is potential" you start to reach out to try and do as much as you still can with the time you still have left. It becomes less about perfection and more about just doing it. So maybe you can't learn 5 languages in a year but if you start now and just do the thing you could maybe learn one. And maybe even learn to cook too before you're done.

For me personally as long as I make some impact on the world before my time is up, I'll consider that enough.

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StateChemist t1_j9ldzu6 wrote

I want to write a book, yet I deeply struggle with ‘I’ve never written anything like this before, is it going to be crap, why would anyone want to read my crap’

I sorta get that it’s just my irrational insecurities yet knowing that isn’t enough to ignore those voices either.

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Zippy926 OP t1_j9na0vy wrote

Every story has already been written and yet people still continue to write and read, so write without fear and without judgment and someday someone will thank you for it, because for every book there is a reader who will love it no matter how good or bad the book is

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fenrslfr t1_j9lf3qm wrote

I am glad he wasn't paralyzed there was better out there about one thing. You.

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Redstonefreedom t1_j9mv2de wrote

I had a bout of this sensation the other day. I found a much better way to do something that’s important for my craft, but instead of getting excited, I got demotivated. Since, it’s “yet another thing to do”. My friend rightly noted this was some time for some mental hygiene, if an exciting opportunity just felt like a chore.

At the end of the day, we have to dispel any idea that we will be able to “do it all” or “do it perfectly”. I describe this as “the infinity of our universe”.

When I get demotivated as such, I just take a step back and say to myself “this universe has infinite potential, and it is equally valid to see it as opportunity as to see it as burden” and prune out the parts of my attitude where it is feeling as a burden.

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RenzoARG t1_j9js0me wrote

This is actually one of those rare moments where a post in this group is actually right and useful!
Wasn't there a Japanese proverb similar to this?
something along the lines of: "If it wasnt done, do it. If it is done, do it better".

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appoplecticskeptic t1_j9ktdh9 wrote

Technically the Wright brothers built the worst FUNCTIONAL airplanes in the world. There were several attempts before them that were clearly airplanes but they just didn’t work.

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Ale2486 t1_j9l48qe wrote

Technically, they actually built paragliders, and dummond built the first airplane.

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appoplecticskeptic t1_j9l8nc6 wrote

> Most aviation historians believe the Wright Brothers met the criteria to be considered the inventors of the first successful airplane before Santos-Dumont because the Wright Flyer was heavier-than-air, manned and powered, able to take off and land under its own power and controllable along three axes

https://www.history.com/news/history-faceoff-who-was-first-in-flight#:~:text=Most%20aviation%20historians%20believe%20the,axes%20in%20order%20to%20avoid

Also you spelled Dumont wrong.

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Ale2486 t1_j9lkmow wrote

You can find sources saying it was one or the other, it's a debate overall. My opinion is that what they built is not an airplane. Imo, it changes based on the definition of an airplane, clearly stating it has to be powered or propelled, where the Wrights only took inclines or pushed it themselves, not actually propeling through air, as Dumont did. Thus me saying they built a paraglider, not an airplane.

Yes I did, thanks!

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gvkOlb5U t1_j9kyaky wrote

I mean. When they built it? It was the best airplane. In the world. In all of recorded history.

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Goodgoditsgrowing t1_j9idxth wrote

Shit this is a good one

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fallenKlNG t1_j9j855r wrote

It’s really difficult coming up with an original idea to do “first” in this day & age though unfortunately

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TheNegAgeN t1_j9ixg9g wrote

Finally, this reddit knows good posts!

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HiddenCity t1_j9kjyl1 wrote

The issue I run up against constantly (starting a business) is that I'm trying to do something many people have done and are doing, but I'm not doing it at their level and it seems impossible.

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KevieSmash t1_j9mveb6 wrote

Shit. I really needed to hear this today.

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Lvl-1-Backpack t1_j9kiec5 wrote

“Medicore” “best” “worst” are judgements from an individuals perspective. What’s the worst for one, can be the best for another. It just matter what you think.

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PopularPopulist t1_j9ktqqq wrote

Not to be a bummer because I agree with the sentiment of this post, but try telling this to all the inventors and business owners who do something completely unique and have their ideas stolen (and popularized) by someone else. History isn’t thanking you for being the first to do something if it’s immediately stolen from you.

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Wonderful_Antelope t1_j9l7m25 wrote

Another reddit page I am on was having a discussion about a quote from GK Chesterton who famously said "if a thing is worth doing, it's worth doing badly." He wasn't defending poor efforts, but he was depending the worthwhile-ness of an activity. Example - reading books to your children is good even if you stammer over words. Making the honest effort to workout even if it wasn't amazing.

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Generico300 t1_j9klle9 wrote

Hitler circa 1930: "Some else could do it better than me."

Eva: "Not relevant babe, no one else is gonna do it."

If no one's done it before, consider that it might not be a good idea.

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Maninhartsford t1_j9l1xbp wrote

You could take literally any motivational quote and go "what if Hitler thought this" but that wouldn't make it relevant.

"believe in yourself" gasp But Hitler believed in himself!

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PontusAqua t1_j9l6zvv wrote

You didn’t really get what he said in that last part lol. The Wright brothers killed a few people themselves to make those planes.

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honeydill2o4 t1_j9ihzxd wrote

I feel uncomfortable being called babe

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